How To Get Kids To Listen Without Yelling

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Название	:	How To Get Kids To Listen Without Yelling
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"You can come on your own two feet, or you can come on mine" Seriously, is no one gonna say anything? brbrFine, I guess I willbrbrWa wa we woo, very nice! 😏
Comment from : @dandee7045

Thank you so much 😢
Comment from : @user-uc6ln9fk6t

Rule 2 is " if you itch don't scratch"
Comment from : @AmyGannaway

Watch at 125 speed
Comment from : @AmyGannaway

Video is a nothing sandwich
Comment from : @barrybarbella817

Ok I've got to tell you, my daughter HATES when I'm smiling and she knows I'm mad! I'm talking, that's a punishment in itself!brI don't get why yelling is a reinforcement, though???
Comment from : @Jennifr1966

For the plan the parents need patience and parents dont have thatbrSo the real solution would be how to built patience in parents & that seems v costly😊
Comment from : @Zaxmails

Start at 8:30 You're welcome
Comment from : @onlinestorytime6875

I learned after having a child on the spectrum to set boundaries This is how it is going to go n it is up to you how YOU get there Example, we are going in the store We are here to food shop You are going to behave and stay by my side If you don't follow this and misbehave no tv when we get home If you do as I ask I will allow you tv when we get home Worked every single time My other 2 older children knew just by my look to do as told from very young lol I rarely yelled Never hit them either If one got out of control in public I wld gentle squeeze there wrist and lean down and whisper, "stop it now" or " keep it up n no tv when we get home" All 3 are amazing adults now They learned to set reasonable boundaries Offering set choices WORKS!
Comment from : @journeytohealthafter60

It’s simple be their friend earn your respect by being there for them and don’t spoil them That’s it
Comment from : @ersanmartin94

Well Paul, brPlumbers pull things stuck in the depths, deal with a lot of crap, teach people how to not get things clogged Seems a bit similar
Comment from : @razielvingrimm

That is actually some amazing advices, thanks a lot 😮
Comment from : @diegoplanes7183

This is love and logic institute methods Based on behavioural techniques, how I raised my boys It has limits, there needs to be a lot of love and active listening in the game too
Comment from : @suedynamic

Lots of talk for saying give them a choice
Comment from : @hulyag2359

I don't know why I hate this guy
Comment from : @simonblurton8009

What do you do when you kindly give your 2 year old the choice to come on their feet or mine and they ignore it and yell no and try to run? Lol Or after you pick them up they are screaming and flailing like you’re murdering them?
Comment from : @kaitlinross4348

I love the speed, i am not a native speaker But it also helps to really understand und think about of what has been said
Comment from : @mirageinmirror1497

What if they are jumping from the couch What options would i give?brExcept saying 'that's not how u use the couch, stop jumping, you are supposed to sit on it'
Comment from : @Tsai_tama

I remember i was way smarter as a kid, and told mom/grannies I would do their task after i finished my current activity by the time
Comment from : @mcmerry2846

Yeah My son has no trigger I can tell and repeat over and over again, and acts he like no one is saying anything 😭😭😭😭
Comment from : @cturcios86

Treat your children with respect My children never broke the rules as teens, they never snuck out, or disrespected me They chipped in on chores without asking and took on their own chore list that benefited the house hold I treated them with respect, when they were little we would talk about what they did wrong and how it could have turned out I taught them how to think of possibilities and I always treated them with respect That respect was given back to me Allowing them to choose between things let's them feel in control of themselves and their lives instead of command and obey
Comment from : @compendiumyo3358

Wow! He sounds normal and is better to watch Thanks!
Comment from : @cd8836

My (35yrs)child is stubborn when i ask him to study When i yell he gets scared and not able to perform at all and when i remain polite with him by saying if u r not gud in studies u vl be street vendor in future instead of being dr and his reply is i will become street vendorbrSo both ways i get trapped and frustrated
Comment from : @sharadranjangoankar1172

I loved this video Thank you ❤brI can apply this at home and at work Thank you!
Comment from : @tamaracano7521

bro those smiles driving me nuts crazy mad
Comment from : @mesutahmedi562

Thank you for the tone requests from 1st friendly to 12th yelling I think I only had 2 nice and firm but what worked so well when we went to the park or play area in an establishment, we would have a time limit and I would set my watch ( now it would be a phone) and when it's alarm beeped out, my boys heard it, I commented, it's time - they knew that there was one more slide or one more monkey bars run-through, and we were happy to leave together, no chasing 2 toddlers to preteens or calling after them t please let's go It was great Also, 2 options at the restaurant, not the entire menu never did we do that, it was a choice, it was theirs, but only 2, saved alot of time and headaches I have seen other families have
Comment from : @ak9868

Giving them choices is great brBut the example you gave is just cruel Hiring someone Knowing that they don’t have money to do so That’s not giving them a choice That’s just pretending to give them a choice while actually not giving them one Sorry That kind of behavior can be absolutely damaging for a relationship Because it just asserts dominance brEspecially if done with that untruthful smile you are using when talking about it brbrConcept is great - execution is horrible brbrHave a good day
Comment from : @FreiRaumSein

How often and at what age ia appropriate to give the 2 choices? I was thinking if giving choices can have bad effect like: 1) child feels overwhelmed to decide so often 2) childs learn is always his choice
Comment from : @MsRocksa

When my son was younger and didn’t have to share the bunk bed with a sibling we would get him in bed by asking which bunk he wanted He would go to bed without any fighting about it
Comment from : @juliathelittle7007

I never understood why parents ask nicely to do something the child should do I just tell my kids come do this If it's a hassle I tell them you can spend 5 minutes doing it or argue n lose your Internet the rest of the day I keep their schedules when to do stuff the same like chore days so they know what's expected It's rarely a problem because they know it takes longer to put up a fuss n they get stuck doing it anyway just get grounded for making it a argument than to go do it n go back to what they are doing
Comment from : @spoiledwitch82

That's AmericanbrIn Asia we dont
Comment from : @zoickn

I'am so curious what you advice when a kid does not makes any choice? I understand that not making a choice is also a choiceI only don't know what to do from that point as a parent Or do I at that point give them 2 new choices, " or you choose or I choose?
Comment from : @aniz40

2x speed this video is 12 minutes too long
Comment from : @hartej

Wouldn’t that make the kids think that we tried to rob them?
Comment from : @kendra_animates6427

Maazi in my language means PAST
Comment from : @WaqarAhmadA

I heard this before Told my 4yo son - do you want to clean the room yourself now or you want me to help you? His answer - nope
Comment from : @kirillshmelev13

Thank you! I will try :)
Comment from : @margaritavalcheva

Doesn't work with ADHD kid
Comment from : @TransAmDrifter

Even the comments on these videos have been helpful I appreciate this community i will be watching many many more videos to try and better myself as a man and father I thank god for wise people who share knowledge Not saying youre perfect or its working but the effort and thought are ao appreciated thank you all
Comment from : @tylerspencer8068

How do I get my kid to shower
Comment from : @teve98

Yelling doesn't work Strong people don't have to yell Confident enough to stay calm
Comment from : @dmoney668

Excellent advice!!! Thanks Paul 🎉🎉🎉brbrConcentrate on the things you can control brbrThis is pure gold !! brbrThank you!!🙏🙏🙏🌳🌳🌳
Comment from : @excellentchoices

Thank you 25 for sure
Comment from : @Panmage777

I watched this video last year and im back again after having my 3rd Thanks for this! I started giving them choices after watching this and it really does work!
Comment from : @browneyez1559

You know, this looks like super good stuff to know for my kid but on the other hand, it's long and sounds super boring So I added it to Watch Later and I'm going to watch videos about epic construction fails instead Thx and sry
Comment from : @aarontooth

How would this work for a 18 month old?? Just wondering I really bdon't/b want to get her used to my yelling 😞
Comment from : @cherrylicious2

Like most of the advice I’ve found the problem emerges when they don’t care about either of your two options and they dig their heels in What it’s well intended and ok, reasonable at the surface, but what do you do when you give them a clear choice and they don’t care about either of those options But let’s say it’s with an issue like getting out the door on time You can’t let them call the shots or call you out so you get pulled into escalation because at some point you have to be some place at a certain time, and they don’t understand time and don’t care about, school/work/dr’s appt/etc…the next level advice is what I want to hear more about The front end is the easy part How do you up the anti without raising the voice or losing your own control, when incentives don’t work, when reasonable options don’t work, like charging a 5 yo $200/hr doesn’t matter to them at all, they generally don’t have any comprehension of money/value We need deeper solutions
Comment from : @michaellaforte6964

Not useful 😢
Comment from : @DrRiccoMastermind

My parents only asked once nicely, the second time they went full Indiana Jones on our asses lol
Comment from : @Calamity_Leo

That was some straight up answers to a frustrating every day scenario Thanks a lot!
Comment from : @steffennielsen3304

Thank you so much for this video Ive got 8 sons and you have described exactly what we have managed to create with the yelling aspect of this video 😅 Ive been slowly fixing it, but this is the key i needed to unlock the potential peace
Comment from : @ohiograssman1564

I tried to make my words count When I said you stay at home alone (with someone safely but not as interesting obviously) if you don't change your clothes, I did that and of coz there were struggles both physically and mentally at the door, but at the end, he stayed home, we left with the younger to have a breakfast outside and had fun brbrWhen I said, I will eat your candies if you don't behave, I immediately open the candy box and eat in front of them, enjoyably and started to pour the whole box into another to signify those candies are no more theirsbrbrWhen I said no TV for a week, that's no TV for a week
Comment from : @phatxausage

How to tell children to do homework in 2 ways Im out of ideas
Comment from : @KisanTure

"Kids, don't make me yell You won't like me if I yell I won't like me if I yell So, let's not waste an entire day crying our eyes out!"
Comment from : @dukestuff

I need this to work in elementary schools
Comment from : @melaninfaith

I'd be wise to listen to it twice and on the 075 speed because this gentleman talks quite reasonable stuff
Comment from : @artyomgordeev7563

Here is a technique that works on young kids: Look up to the ceiling, do a resounding "Ho-ho-ho!", and pretend to start filing a complaint with Santa That will get the kid moving; I gua-ron-tee!
Comment from : @namolokaman2393

Any advice for one year old??? I am dying here 🤦 My daughter started with tantrums, as soon as she started with kindergarten She is great there, but a screamer at home! She used to be an angel before! Noe she hits us, and even puls her own hair when it is not the way she wants something to be 😅
Comment from : @suzanasaponjic6101

My kid at a very young age has figured out to never choose the 2 options i present but always a third one Curious if anyone has tips for that We started this right when she was 2 and by 3 she figured to taken either of the 2 options But i get how to think vs fight
Comment from : @niyati19

U train people or animals ? 😬
Comment from : @piotrk-pr5372

Sadly I have a 4 year old who’s “on” to the two choices and responds with “none of them!” I was hoping this would be covered as I wondered what to do in that instance?
Comment from : @humbledaughter2219

Dr Paul, this is the first time I watched your video, it’s very practical n convincing to parents You save a lot of family Guess watching n learning from yr video becomes my daily habit Heartfelt thanks
Comment from : @selinashek3058

Wow this is really great! Thank you very much
Comment from : @teck6492

How can i apply this to a 2 year old in child care who throws toys?
Comment from : @shawnalaskodi8743

Do Not be afraid to Admit Discipline is Necessary and Discipline Requires 👉Fear 👈Plain And Simple 👍
Comment from : @maurianobaruso5859

This advice is for a small familybrIf you have 5 kids, you're going to yell
Comment from : @mucholangs

15x speed AND start at 8:25
Comment from : @victorkonon

my 5 year old told me no to both choices awwwwww lol help!
Comment from : @leilaniglassmyer1971

Comment from : @kcchiok

Just traumatize your children from the start for early results 😂
Comment from : @namelessdata4608

01:18 I must have trained my dad into hitting me too when I was little, right?
Comment from : @user-el3rk6os3p

My daughter would counter me with her rates to clean her room
Comment from : @ahoblit

I did this on accident the other day and got to watch the show I wanted to on a Saturday morning for a change after I picked up his toys 😂
Comment from : @glenchilada

Shalom
Comment from : @MyFriendlyPup

Doesn't make much sense The child can have as many choices as you want and still go for his own choice of not obeying you: "I am not going to clean my room and not going to pay you a dime, go figure out!"
Comment from : @avetius

Thats ok for 3 year old who could understand our language but what about 1 or 2 year
Comment from : @disiist

Yes, great advice and it also empowers them They feel like they have a say in their life
Comment from : @theconsciousearthangel

Shoulda yelled the first time?
Comment from : @JesseClaus

An error in reasoning, assuming that the child will choose 1 of the 2 options It can always say that neither option suits it
Comment from : @dracorp

Not really helpful Maybe for older kids Anyway you didnt tackle on what you do to get the attention, you skipped your own fundamental original issue
Comment from : @Vlcounek

actually your tips are way more helpful and effective than those "theoretical lessons " given by Jordan Peterson
Comment from : @mikiallen7733

going to try this with my grandkids!
Comment from : @jackieo8693

that's nice So basically, search for thinking not fighting Stay with God
Comment from : @guilhermesutildea8606

Love to see you calmly giving the two optionsbrwith that freak smile for the 13th time while your kids weren't paying attentionbrSure the calm manner helps!brLive in a real life!brHope they can defend themselves or just giving always two options on every situation in their life
Comment from : @quby3310

I have a 4 year old, a 3 year old, and a year and a half old Most days, there are so many dynamics going on, i dont have time to even think of 2 options to give my oldest 2 Any advice? Im in survival mode most of the time and "putting out fires", so to speak, most of the day! I find myself yelling a lot to try and gain control but ive already lost it and dont want to parent this way Its discouraging
Comment from : @3ate4

Do you cite Love and Logic as your source for the parenting skills? Because the Love and Logic “creators” never credited Adlerian Theory I ❤ using consequences as opposed to punishment And choices are miraculous
Comment from : @kristinajohnson3165