The Attachment Styles and How They Affect Your Relationships #shorts

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I'm avoidant I love my partner and I loved my friends, but it has always been incredibly draining to actively engage with them I no longer keep friends around because I thought I'd have more mental energy to talk/do things with my partner, but I'm still exhausted I'm always content just being in the presence of my partner, but he is anxious and needs constant affirmation that I love and want to be with him and wants to do engaging things I try to meet him half way by planning to play games together and having long conversations about things we like, but even though I enjoy those things it often feels like a chore I just got diagnosed with ADHD this month, so I'm wondering if that has anything to do with it, but either way I just want to have the energy to be more present in my relationship and I'm not sure how
Comment from : @Mrs_Truth

Can a person shift between two styles?
Comment from : @maddmann9498

I’m a little clingy but I try not to pressure him with it He knows I’m this way and is understanding He can be avoidant when he gets stressed and we talked about it so he’s opening up and sharing his thoughts with me more I remind him, I got his back and he reminds me he’s always here for me It’s been one whole year and we don’t fight We have loving conversations that leads us to great outcomes I hope we continue to grow this way We loved each other since I was 12 and he was 14 ❤🙏🏾🌹
Comment from : @talori5417

“You don’t need me! 💁🏽‍♀️”
Comment from : @StarDust_2077

How do I heal the anxious attachment style
Comment from : @MrsBruteBreakerDavis

What I noticed with my ex is that she was the anxious and it made me secure, but now I’m dating an avoidant and I’m the anxious type with her and it’s so difficult to deal with, 2 weeks ago she was talking to me often now she’s been cold with me dry texts all that and rn I’m pulling back till she reaches out so I don’t stress her out or make her feel suffocated
Comment from : @roccovert4351

WHAT ABOUT THE DISORGANISED??? It's not rare at all
Comment from : @Werksonek

I love being a DA
Comment from : @beccastroh8852

Sounds like the 1-2-3 of someone who’s been abused in relationships
Comment from : @thomasaur12290

i am aware of my anxious style but I never bring up my suspicions to anyone to drive em away i just suffer in silence
Comment from : @coronalights9693

I'm inbetween 1 and 2
Comment from : @alphalax7747

I think I’m fucked
Comment from : @whiskyweasal89

Can you have both avoidant and anxious at the same time? 😅
Comment from : @jollyjen96

Can you have different relationship types with different people?
Comment from : @hunterfranks5495

If you have been hurt enough by someone you might say Enough whether you have Anxious or Avoidant Attachment or have both Attachment Styles
Comment from : @amygerstle2037

Lmao I'm definitely the aloof avoidant attachment style
Comment from : @LoveYou3539

Sums me up Psychological independence
Comment from : @stormrt8909

Unlike with astrology, I don't relate to any of these 😂
Comment from : @dopex89

Insecure avoidant anxious, trust issues, fear of rejection All of the above
Comment from : @dwrjr27

Secure, anxious, avoidant I think I might cycle through all three styles in one typical work day
Comment from : @nodozhit

I’m definitely avoidant I keep ppl as far from me as possible yet I find most ppl to be beautiful and interesting
Comment from : @sleepyjavanlangur

Wow! This hit home I’m definitely not clingy, but I make myself unavailable to cope with my fear of rejection Basically, I kill relationships before they start Crazy
Comment from : @boebender

I love your videos❤DrT
Comment from : @eunicenjeru215

I am anxious with some and secure with others depends on who i am with
Comment from : @bondman07052

Im the second one and my bf is the third one
Comment from : @randomone8811

What if you're all three? It depends on the person, time of life, etc
Comment from : @ana419

anxious-avoidant style here✌🏻
Comment from : @69majmun69

Thank you?
Comment from : @rubenbell222

💘🇨🇭
Comment from : @ancientbavarianswissarmyknife

I have Anxious Avoidant attachment style Life is hard
Comment from : @blueberries9850

thanks ! God bless ! zachfrom gr (canadaon)
Comment from : @zygmuntchyrzynski

Dang these comments got mean and personaljust woah
Comment from : @BoBBoBMaran

most of the time when anxious are activated it’s because the avoidant switched up their behavior and is actually talking to multiple people and building their backup plan
Comment from : @tonitv9991

i wonder how PMDD and blood loss from women affect delusional anger and anxiety towards our partners There’s never an easy fix
Comment from : @tonitv9991

❤
Comment from : @qv4320

yeah I don't need any one just myself I think it's enough
Comment from : @amylenoir345

Both Both There’s a both in this!
Comment from : @bllkennedy1540

For those with someone who is insecure-avoidant I’ll give you some incite because that’s what I have Emotionally abusive and distant mother is the trauma I grew up with, she also was married to an abusive drunk for a couple years I learned early on to develop a more unique personality to get noticed, isolate more, and put myself out there less because of a crippling fear of rejection I tend to make people close to me feel like I don’t need them because I was raised by someone incredibly distant to me, so I had to learn how to meet my own needs, so I rarely rely on others meet them You can help your parents if they are avoidant by reassuring them, checking in with them when you are out, always uplift them, never ever make them a butt of your jokes in front of them Couples therapy helps to get a better understanding of why they do the things they do It’ll uncover so much family trauma you and possibly them had no idea existed
Comment from : @randyjobst581

I am anxious attachement but i trust people Thats weird
Comment from : @1224polo

I'm all of it so brwhat's that
Comment from : @childofGodddd

That last meaning was interestingA partner can feel like "You don't need me" Is it so?
Comment from : @herrroy4963

Insecure anxious and she is spot on 👌
Comment from : @Kaykay-jh1zu

The anxious attachment sounds like BPD
Comment from : @returnoftheromans6726

How to help someone like that have a healthy relationship w you tho
Comment from : @catsaresocute650

Great information, thank you but when pronouncing the world "clingy" it is not pronounced 'cling gee' it's pronounced 'cling eee'
Comment from : @susanlbk

It upsets me that no one talks about disorganized attachment
Comment from : @KhizerH

You make a really good point about AP/anxious attachment: PERCEIVED threats (and suspicion) are what really drives this attachment style It’s completely normal to react poorly to someone actually threatening to leave you — let’s say, in a manipulative way as a result of you trying to constructively express your needs Or if your partner suddenly becomes distant and cold, concern is a natural response But I’ve noticed a lot of APs will have severe self-regulation issues Their responses are often too big for a given situation They panic more easily and jump to conclusions Clinging behavior as a way to cope can be extreme and often, it’s uncalled for in a given circumstance
Comment from : @alexas5287

Came from a fullblown anxious attachment style, now I'm in a more avoidant attachment style 🤦‍♀️
Comment from : @thelordcommander5

i learned about alll this to make or give our 5 yesrs a resl chance to paradisegf avoidntrannot to feellike her past marriage,,i wanted to evolve,,grow and have my current gf reap the growth benifiy
Comment from : @tubesurf17

Anxious attachment style - I'm always looking for the smallest sign of rejection
Comment from : @bambinoesu

I'm definitely the second type and I desperately want to change that it's not good for me, it's not good for my friends and I've almost ended relationships because they haven't really talked to me for a week and I've somehow decided that it's actually cuz they don't want me in their lives, instead of them just having an exhausting weekbrbrLike, I try to control it, I reframe how I look at them not being able to meet up, I try to be calm and say that it's ok and we should meet up at a later date, usually it works, but something will eventually set me off and I'll say stuff I'll regret, profusely apologizing afterwards
Comment from : @walterl322

Hmmm I think it’s avoidance sadly
Comment from : @michaelyeary828

Insecure avoidant here 🤚🏻 avoiding someone as we speak 😂
Comment from : @sa6082

Thank you 💕 having these videos and especially the "SHORTS" they are quick and in your face so that it sinks in and you can face your "TRUTHS" or true self before your thoughts or conscious mind can totally agree or disagree You're like "Oh, that's me, that's what I am going to work on to be more present and have a healthier life and mindset ✨ Thank you Dr Tracy Marks ✨
Comment from : @YolandaReardon

It’s frustrating that fearful avoidant is so rare that nobody talks about it 😭
Comment from : @sydneyrichmond3290

damn it man why did I have to be anxious preoccupied? that's the least attractive one
Comment from : @beamertoy

Too over generalized
Comment from : @kyrareneeLOA

I have an anxious insecure avoidant attachment style Sighs
Comment from : @lissamatthews

She totally skipped over fearful avoidant
Comment from : @blackpanter9572

"Secure" sounds like a synonym for "naïve"
Comment from : @bigol9223

I have a jumble of all of the above, and not many relationships 😅brbrMy personal life story is apparently beyond ridiculous and people, especially professionals, think I'm all BS brbrIt's impacting my healthcare 😢
Comment from : @TheKrispyfort

Im gonna turn my anxious attachment style to avvoidant Man its gonna be fun Never need anybody anymore Dream ❤
Comment from : @bbli-bq5xj

Tried so hard not to be the same as my mom- anxious attachment style but failed I did alot of things better, but not this, despite years of therapy, reading parenting books, being in parenting groups etc Sometimes the fear in so ingrained in our cells, we pass it along anyway, much to my sadness and disappointment😢
Comment from : @theresarezac7502

So well explained
Comment from : @Honeysent

Avoidant, never married due to commitment phobia and fear of being let down, I always got into relationships with emotionally unavailable men that would enevitabuly prove my theory that I can't rely on anyone
Comment from : @Miss_Kitty1030

Avoidants are the worst!! They are like robots who cant process or openly express their thoughts and emotions! They dismiss and make others feel small
Comment from : @rupertperiwinkle4477

TFW I AM BOTH!!!
Comment from : @vanillyswirl

Sometimes the suspicions are true
Comment from : @tmayberry7559

BPD here and i have never been dumped i refuse I have broken up with every single one of my relationships because im too afraid of being the one rejected
Comment from : @DaughterOfTheKingdom16

this is describing women🤣🤣
Comment from : @adamchavez999

I think my partner was anxious and I'm avoidant We are now not together ☹️
Comment from : @timelordthefirst4835

Felt like I got called out ,😂
Comment from : @trudyannrenion1586

Is insecure avoidant a thing?
Comment from : @cookee888

Insecure avoidant (minus the insecure part), relying on my own ressources always works for me and been in many disappointing situations when opening up and trusting So this is not a total lost on its on; I believe to be a survival mechanism Now I'm in a secure relationship and love the dynamic: trustful, healthy with no emotional ups and downs/ dramas totally worth it
Comment from : @konsyansnou8623

What would cause someone to be avoidant in a relationship?
Comment from : @Matteo77777

Can u have all 3?
Comment from : @titanniki412

I have a secure attachment style, but I do get clingy and have major attachment issues with my partner Consistently concerned for his well being We are in a long distance relationship together, so it has only made the situation worse My concern grows stronger and I worry that it may break the relationship one day
Comment from : @MuichiroTortilla

mam concise video!!! GREAT job! I love your necklace n earings too
Comment from : @amug3536

@Drtraceymarks does it mean something if I have a secure relationship style but I continually pic those who have an anxious style?
Comment from : @dvsimagines1

When an anxious attachment style is in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style it’s: one pulls/one pushes, one clings/one runs, pursuer/distancer Maddening and unfulfilling
Comment from : @sockpuppet2415

Is it possible that attachement styles change? after a bad break up, and ending relationship with my best friend, I have huge difficulty trusting anybody but my closest family I was never like that
Comment from : @gianasantarossa8018

All due to childhood treatment
Comment from : @rebeccalankford9810

Unfortunately I think I’m anxious It sucks so bad
Comment from : @emilytreu2312

Dr Tracey Marks, how does insecure avoidant develop? And If you don´t answer, a video about it would be good
Comment from : @madlenj4644

100 avoidant
Comment from : @chanceDdog2009

I have a friend I’ve known since I was 12 We’re in our 20s now I remember one time she said “10 years of friendship and we’ve barely done anything but do [list repetitive things]” And I knew it was my fault, knowing I’m avoidant
Comment from : @REChronic54

truly appreciate your content thank you for sharing so many need this info
Comment from : @katrinaornelas

What's wrong with being psychologically independent?
Comment from : @MockingbirdInACage

Thankyou This info is good to understand people
Comment from : @canyoustayupallnightstudyt6535

Tracy Marks🙏a thousand thanksbrI can only say "thank you"brSome of us, perhaps many, are still alive and learning to thrive because you made help available to the working poorbrI'm one of many in gratitude to you 🥰
Comment from : @djimiwreybigsby5263