Is Your Anxiety Sabotaging Your Relationship? (Matthew Hussey)

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Man I would love to pick your brain for an hour I've felt so lost the last 6 weeks in a new 'relationship' after a bad failed marriage Im crazy about a woman who, as of now, has other priorities And it hurts to feel like isnt invested as much as I have been Play it cool? Go no contact? Express my frustration in a constructive way? Is 6 weeks too soon to even had and express expectations? I just don't know what to do or how to feel
Comment from : Tim Germany

she was taking a while to text me back and I got in my head The second I found this video and clicked on it , she texted me back 😎
Comment from : Jeremy Drinnen

I meanis the party situation all anxiety or is it mostly trust and insecurity issues due to past truama and being hurt from past relarionships??
Comment from : matthew wendt

Thank you
Comment from : eyrinmc

If it's intuition, and the clues are there, should we just dismiss what might actually be happening? Especially if you're partner lies to you
Comment from : Dustin Ellerbe

I think my mum is an anxious type and she has always driven me nuts Really traumatizing
Comment from : A Snoopy

Just realized I overthink 🤔
Comment from : Gonçalo A Silva

imagine searching this up and trying to improve yourself for a SITUATIONSHIP not even a solid partner im too deep in this relationship
Comment from : hugo

1:58 is literally me right now what the hell
Comment from : Oriba

I never comment on videos I'm trying to fix my trust issues because I ruined things with an amazing girl after constantly attacking her I can not say enough how much this helped me identify what was wrong in my head
Comment from : Daniel Hill

Luckily my person is patient w me and just asks me if I want a hug🥹😭😭😭
Comment from : Micah TV

And just like that, you've just described the relationship I had with a guy I almost married I tried for two and a half years I misread the whole situation, and thought he was insecure, immature and that he would grow it out But he never did I felt it in my heart that the relationship would have gone south very quickly if we ever got married without fixing the underlying aggression, and I left him while we were engaged He later married and seemed to be happy I am glad for him, because I really loved the guy However, this was the only relationship that pushed me into having panic attacks afterwards, and kind of complicated my life in the aftermath for a while It's very cool you are helping people with these issues, for they are very destructive Thank you Cheers
Comment from : Evangelina Spirulina

Try and imagine having this attachment style and dealing with an avoidant person who literally tells you you are not enough, that they do not respect you and that if you keep annoying them they are definitely going to leave you Not fun
Comment from : Paul Anderson

Amazing, I feel understood and the advice is amazing Thank you
Comment from : Anahita a

I can’t stop sabotaging my relationships and it sucks Every time I get into a relationship I feel so overwhelmed that this person likes me and wants me and I dislike but at the same time I want them around me I look for anything to push them away and I hate that part of myself
Comment from : M

My favorite weapon is swallowing what i see as wrong, and letting it poision me so that they dont see me as bad
Comment from : Ian Brooks

is there a way to have this translated to spanish?
Comment from : Tania De la Cruz

it currently is and it sucks I've pushed my boyfriend so far away he needs space now, we have not broken up yet but I fear if I continue acting the way I do we will soon
Comment from : jamie

Just had an experience like this just earlier today but my solution or 'weapon' for it ended up being to just blame myself which led me to have the first mental breakdown I've had in a long time, genuinely really glad how my gf was able to understand this and tried her best to calm me down This is my first time being in an actually serious relationship so I'm kinda still learning as it continues, really gotta try my best to solve this issue before I start dragging her down with me haha
Comment from : Delta W4

I live through this hell everyday and with every new relationship no matter the circumstances
Comment from : Meriam Zz

Gosh! Those examples of assumptions we make r so true 😢😢brAll sort of negative automatic thoughts come in the mind if they just didn't call us one day Or chose to go out with friends 😮brbrAnxious attachment style sucks! N quite difficult to manage Needs a lot of inner work I suppose 😕
Comment from : feel_it_to_heal_it

Thank you for the in depth examples and ways to combat this issue
Comment from : Jennifer Marie Rios

I finally realized Im just better be single, earn a living, travel and enjoy life! Focus in my family, i have nephew and nieces and All good
Comment from : MusicDelulu

I think it’s all linked to some forms of trauma
Comment from : Amritpalh H

Hearing that it is okay was so liberating ❤
Comment from : Moonster Girl

Today i learned i have anxious attachment I fill on the blanks And 100 of the time im wrong and my Gf looks at me like im a loon
Comment from : Sean Irwin

Story aka Narrative
Comment from : Joe Cisneros

Excellent video!
Comment from : TheMusic1391

So hard after over a decade of gaslighting, when I should have trusted my own mind but didn’t To turn that around and tell myself it’s my mind making things up (which it probably is) is unbelievably difficult and even feels dangerous brThe physical abuse was far less damaging Sad truth
Comment from : Ems

all i know we dont sabotage our relationship as if our partner understands about us and they make sure we feel secure and being loved
Comment from : BELAGU

Fantastic video
Comment from : Sushi Time1401

so what can i do to stop my "wounds" turning into "weapons"?
Comment from : Maisy Anne

Relationships often end, not because they can't handle our wounds, it's because they can't handle our weapons 🤯
Comment from : Nessa

❤🙏🏼🫶🏼
Comment from : dedeeBRD

There must be a part 2I need more😢
Comment from : Dfromtheblock

I'm anxious and I rarely get things wrong ❤❤ ❤
Comment from : Sabrina RS

Yeah, I have an anxious attachment style for not just romantic relationships but even in my day to day life, I am definitely guilty of seeing something that I do not like and my brain easily makes up a story of what I will hypothetically do, makes up a story of what this person is doing and it definitely leads to these feelings of hurt and jealousy
Comment from : Riley GShep

I did this the other day, wife text me the toilet clogged and broken while i was driving I didnt text back and by the time i got home i had already jumped to the conclusion she wasnt going to tey to fix it or call a plumber That i have to do everything when youre the one who broke it Turns out she was gonna call, vut i already freaked out
Comment from : Michael Hill

I know this video is a couple years old, so you may not answer But this is something I'm currently dealing with and was wondering: if I do notice that my anxious attachment style is hurting us, can I fix it? If I can recognize that I am sabotaging unintentionally because I'm hurt, how can I undo it so we can heal and still make it?
Comment from : Jamila Elise

I had a secure attachment style, but an ex made me anxious 😔
Comment from : Pau

so how do we fix it tho?
Comment from : madi

I never thought I'd find the exact same thing that's in my head on YouTube, I thought I was psychotic
Comment from : Brett

This is me And my favorite weapon is sarcasm 😢
Comment from : unknown

I needed this Thank you
Comment from : DubbelV8

Overthinking stuff in a relationship can make you come off as creepy
Comment from : Truckguy1970

Matt, I have watched thousands videos related to this very specific topic However, your message is the one I've been wanting to hear about all this time This put me into a self realization that I am the one attacking my partner with my past wounds This is inspirational My enormous thanks, may the Universe bless you for always
Comment from : bare face

We all commit unforgivable things Ask for forgiveness and forgive yourself Move on From a guy
Comment from : Youll make it

What if he doesn't have any explanation reasonable enough to me for what he did? What if he was just being selfish or ignorant and was taking me for granted? Of course if I confront him about this he will just deny it and come up with an excuse Should I just gaslight myself into thinking I'm overreacting and it was nothing serious? Or should I finally accept that despite him telling me he loves me, he's actions even though subtle are suggesting otherwise and I should just overcome the fear of losing him and finally act on my instincts? Does it always have to be a lose-lose situation for me?
Comment from : Sara Chavoshzadeh

Matt is not only so naturally good at this, but he’s also so intelligent as well He literally sounded like one of the most highly skilled therapists I’ve ever had in this video
Comment from : Mars Rock

“Alot of relationships end not because they couldn’t deal with our wounds but because they couldn’t handle our weapons”brWow This is so powerful
Comment from : asmrbebexo

Yes, I was watched this last week…
Comment from : Robert Zawasky

I’m in the best relationship I’ve ever been in and I’m ruining it She’s so supportive and just wants to help but my self consciousness is killing it It’s not me thinking she’s doing something but mainly I just feel like she’s out of my league I feel like a failure in life even though I’m still only 19 I feel like I graduated 10 years ago and I’m still on the edge of homelessness and being broke and not being able to accomplish my dreams but I need to realize it’s only been a year or two
Comment from : Samuel Jones

Thank you
Comment from : Samuel Jones

I don’t know about that Some people make us feel more anxious than others and it’s true for people who haven’t been through that in a tough way That gut feeling is something to take note of It’s your second brain, after all My motto is - if something feels “no bueno” trust it Walk away and be around people that don’t make you feel like that, there’s plenty
Comment from : Sam

This is so accurate that I can barely keep watching I am being called out, for sure
Comment from : C Z

AH just discredited half of the premise of the attached book lolegcommunication is what is required
Comment from : Dor Meles

I’m an anxious attachment style, I’ve just lost the person I love, I’m in so much pain right now, I want it to end
Comment from : Michael

i lost my 4 years relationship bcs of my attachment 😔
Comment from : sazzyj

I just started to cry very randomly, because I‘ve never been confronted with my own feelings like this Someone just standing there and telling me „straight to the face“ exactly what I‘m feeling like all the time This was so emotional to me, idek whybrI always thought no one could 100 understand what my brain does to me, but there he is, going into so mich detailbrI‘m so scared this anxious behaviour of mine will one day ruin my beautiful relationship… I‘m scared it would be too much for my partner, because I know how exhausting it must be sometimes I‘m trying so hard to be better and to not let my brain fool me, but it‘s really hard…
Comment from : antonia

Yes but whole time my anxiety is correct!!
Comment from : 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐚 𝐂

A lot of anxious people in here I’m dating an anxious style and it’s a headache Always assuming the wrong shit, always attacking, and I’m always the bad guy One more chance and I’m out 😒
Comment from : MJ Goins

Your a gift MatthewThank you for sharing 😊
Comment from : Candice Bonnici

Appreciate it
Comment from : Ryan Boutte

My anxiety is getting better everyday
Comment from : Jake Henderson

You’re helping and healing my boyfriend He found your content and it really resonates with him You put everything together so well and to the point Thank you from the bottom of my heart
Comment from : Jojo

I just wanna thank you I've been listening to your videos all morning I just found them I'm going through a lot right now and realizing my haof what's going on in my life? Your videos are very informative to me I'm trying to fix a lot of my issues and get back to being myself thank you
Comment from : nick adams

Thnx I needed this video
Comment from : Dimitris Gonatas

Thank you Lord for this video
Comment from : love one another

Never had a chance perhaps if I am given one we shall see
Comment from : Lord Josh

I am going through something very painful i can't be with the boy i love crazily and mutually we have come to this understanding now he is moving on with some other girl , we are still in touch but i am extremely jealous I can't concentrate on anything at all I really need help to move on But i don't have any friends that close i can discuss this with I feel i am dying inside daily I need help
Comment from : Randomly Wonder World

i've been on an enormous healing journey since i realized i have this type of attachment, i've started to look back on my previous relationships and oh god, it's been always this problem the thing that broke those relationships
Comment from : CheeseNacho

Omg me 😂that tangent
Comment from : T

When our partner comes back to us 😂😢
Comment from : Hala Rabah

Yup, I need help
Comment from : nefretiri69

I know a woman just like that So sad Ended up cheating and throwing it all away
Comment from : Alessandro

I was the problem
Comment from : Khoa Doan

what if you dont know, whether you like him enough, or its just me being anxious? i mean, some weapons are coping mechanisms, but some obviously is because your needs arent being met?? that can cause anxiety too, you know?
Comment from : Maria Runing

Great video!
Comment from : Madison Budniak

Wow I realised losing my mum at 8 and my oldest brother (who became my mum in a way when she died) at 10 has turned me into someone who is anxious within relartionships I ruined it with my ex, constantly arguing and accusing her when she was AMAZING and did nothing of any sort to put me in an uncomfortable situation I'm sorry for myself for not understanding it and i'm sorry to her for putting h er through torment for a year - i was simply naive Broke up with her about 9 times in a year and the 10th time was the final straw I guess
Comment from : king vamp

Ive had a few relationships end because they couldn’t handle my weapons This is so spot on!!!!!
Comment from : diane Smith

Needed this the most today of all days Thank you!
Comment from : That Indian Chick

Oh my goodness!!! Thank you for this video!! Thank you so much 🥹
Comment from : Brooke Jay

So good!
Comment from : Danielle Whanau

I get so annoyed at seeing my girlfriend talking with another guy
Comment from : Luke Skywalker Jedi Knight 20

Wow everything he said was deep!
Comment from : Hannah Townsley

Also that’s how it feels when you’re dating a narcissist and your soul is trying to tell you something! I use to feel like that but now in a healthy relationship I feel so secure, no need to try to calm myself or anything
Comment from : Valentina Vadillo