| Название | : | How to Raise Successful Kids -- Without Over-Parenting | Julie Lythcott-Haims | TED |
| Продолжительность | : | 14.17 |
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| Просмотров | : | 3,5 jt |
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Whether you’re just launching your adult life or finally giving yourself permission to question assumptions about adulthood, learn practical strategies to build a future that fits you from Julie Lythcott-Haims Enroll in her TED Course “How to become be your best adult self” today: br tedtalkssocial/3OmpymZ Comment from : @TED |
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I was tough wanted A and B’s gave lots of love and now he has graduated and is very successful I taught him well by example brTask discipline and group discipline when he is with his friends they all called me Pops and I had there respect Comment from : @dennisimpallomeni5599 |
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As a parent right now I am buffled 😢😢not knowing what should I do Comment from : @englishadel3308 |
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So inspiring!😊 Comment from : @3107el |
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Nice video!! I have a 7yr old child and school keeps complaining to me thay he's not doing well in class not finishing HW I was yelling, pressuring to practice more online and now i realize that this will hurt more than help !! brI know now that if you're less upset with grades, and showing more love and kindness will help the child do more and be more successful Comment from : @sanaanejjari7547 |
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Funny she quotes the study of one of those Ivy League universities which is the receptacle of the kids of either the rich and powerful or those kids that have had no childhood and all are taught to be selfish rich and powerful Comment from : @TheGuggo |
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True you cannot share love if you don't love yourself first Comment from : @mamameahsoriano6919 |
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Easy for y’all to say Comment from : @Vxmpirer |
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You make weak people, and weak people are the worst kind of people Comment from : @blag6666 |
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Its so helpful maam while listening to you i open my mind and i now it really makes sensethank you so much Comment from : @nanaynen54321 |
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Its so helpful maam while listening to you i open my mind and i now it really makes sensethank you so much Comment from : @nanaynen54321 |
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Hearing people laughing while listening to this kind of speech tells me that many are not really getting it Its not a joke its scary and sad Comment from : @soniadasilva322 |
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Let's go Comment from : @Jamesawoods96 |
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2 minutes in and I realise I am not the problematic parent she's describingnot at all who are these parents haha is it just north americans maybe? Comment from : @maverickpictures6895 |
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THIS TALK WAS AMAZING!!! Comment from : @shahidiscool2246 |
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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:brbr00:12 🚸 Concerns about Over-Parentingbr- Over-parenting can impede children’s self-developmentbr- Parents overly involved can harm their children’s ability to succeed independentlybr- The trend towards over-protecting and micromanaging children's lives is highlightedbr01:10 📝 The Checklist Childhoodbr- Children are subjected to a checklist-style upbringingbr- The focus on the right schools, grades, and accolades over personal growthbr- The prevalence of parental over-involvement in academic and extracurricular activitiesbr03:10 🕓 No Time for Playbr- Over-scheduled children have no time for play or household choresbr- The constant push for academic and extracurricular perfection creates stressbr- The paradox of claiming to desire happiness for children while prioritizing achievementsbr04:40 🧗♂️ Consequences of High Expectationsbr- High expectations lead to anxiety, depression, and burnout among teensbr- The dilemma of parents’ desires for children's success versus children’s well-beingbr- Acknowledgment of the unrealistic academic and career pressures placed on childrenbr06:16 🛠️ Building Self-Efficacybr- The importance of self-efficacy over parental-led achievementsbr- Kids need to engage in more self-led activities to build confidence and independencebr- Critique of parents living vicariously through their children's successesbr07:47 🎓 Rethinking College Admissionsbr- Narrow definitions of success based on college admissions are challengedbr- The speaker urges parents to focus on building lifelong skills and wellness in childrenbr- Encouragement to value diverse educational paths and intrinsic personal growthbr09:20 🧼 The Value of Choresbr- Chores are linked to professional success and a collaborative mindsetbr- The neglect of chores in childhood can lead to a lack of workplace initiativebr- The Harvard Grant Study is cited to support the importance of chores for successbr10:24 ❤️ The Fundamental Role of Lovebr- The key to happiness is love, not achievements or workbr- Children need to experience unconditional love to develop self-lovebr- The emphasis is on the emotional connection rather than academic or extracurricular successbr11:25 🏫 Broadening Views on Educationbr- Success and happiness are not exclusive to brand-name schoolsbr- The speaker challenges the college rankings racket and promotes a wider view of educational successbr- The importance of removing parental ego from children's educational decisionsbr13:01 🌱 Wildflowers, Not Bonsai Treesbr- Children compared to wildflowers, highlighting individual growth and potentialbr- Parents should support rather than shape their children's futuresbr- The speaker's personal revelation on parenting and supporting children's unique paths Comment from : @MysticLGD |
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For myselfメモ書きbrSection1brPeople tend to be overprotective but this is not always good （introduce her opinion,and expand her argument)br1:20 Comment from : @kiiyooo4337 |
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Raised "school smart" and "life stupid" was my experience, that and the resulting adult I was for about a decade after left me with a lot of scars Education is great, but a healthy human being needs that unconditional love, those acts of kindness between people, and those opportunities to grow own resilience in all aspects of life It's that balance between "let kids be kids" and "children are people too", meaning care and protect, yes, but let them think, do and figure stuff out for themselves too! That's what I've come to believe, anyway Comment from : @leldejansone7645 |
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Raising a confident child is a universal aspiration for parents Raise Successful Kids is so hard thank for you sharing Comment from : @TheFamilyTips |
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Your content is an invaluable resource for parents on the journey of raising children As someone deeply committed to nurturing young minds, I'm truly inspired by your insights Raising children is an incredible responsibility, and it's our duty to help them grow into compassionate, honest, and patient individuals
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brIn the words of Fred Rogers, 'The greatest gift you ever give is your honest self' Our children learn by example, and it's our actions that mold their character 'Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you're waiting,' says Joyce Meyer Instilling this virtue in our children is a gift that keeps on giving
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brTeaching honesty is equally vital 'Honesty is a very expensive gift; don't expect it from cheap people,' warns Warren Buffett Our role as parents is to show our children the worth of integrity
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brKeep sharing your invaluable wisdom, as it resonates with all of us striving to raise responsible, respectful, and kind-hearted kids Comment from : @herochildhere |
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I feel like focusing on chores, even with love (like the house I grew up in) raises servants who bow down to bosses with little room for autonomy Some chores are healthy, but lording over them creating all the rules and giving them little choices causes this Comment from : @jeniferjohnson374 |
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HOMESCHOOL Comment from : @jeniferjohnson374 |
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This was great I let me kids take the lead, and we go from there It's amazing what kids know if you just stop and listen Comment from : @normanchan2001 |
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"How was your day" with a big smile are the first words I say to my boys every single day as someone who should know best that I never had that in my childhood and I know how much these simple words would mean to me Comment from : @dodododo-fo8vu |
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I wish my dad would’ve integrated the importance of grades I don’t think I heard the word college until high school and I could’ve made a plan Comment from : @Sammiemamabear |
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Parents should change but on top of everything the system should be changed Comment from : @human9597 |
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👍👍👍👍 Comment from : @mariammanukyan9820 |
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She's delivering her speech like spoken word poetry Amazing job! Comment from : @yyu8327 |
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Why is she yelling like that ? Impossible to listen 😅 Comment from : @gsstroy5347 |
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The takeaway for me is not to raise your children to inflate your own ego Raise them with love Comment from : @lazygirl5152 |
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Children need more time to blow some steam and let their creative minds roam Comment from : @lucylucy1933 |
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Over parenting a child could lead to imparing their abilities to make choices and breeds insecurity Children should be given the right tools to have some trust and independence as human beings They know that their parents trust them to be responsible and make good decisions 👍 💯 Comment from : @carol-us4xn |
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Funny enough she despice those big name colleges yet take reference from it's studies Comment from : @normschan5548 |
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beautiful Comment from : @user-sr2hy8kd1x |
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Well, her arguments on not going to Harvard or top schools is based on Harvard and top school research 😅 Comment from : @erickmendieta6857 |
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This lady sucks Comment from : @OGCuster |
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Thank you, I needed that , 🙏 Comment from : @crysmtess9388 |
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One of the finest lectures ever heard Comment from : @santubanik633 |
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I am so grateful that I didn't do all this I made my children responsible for their school work, and I was there to help if needed, we were immigrants from the Netherlands, and I value very much that children are children, and learning is fun if you don't connect it to rewards and punishments getting good grades is a reward in it self- for gathering knowledge And yes, my kids turned out very well and successfully Powerful TED Talk! Indeed! Remove the parental ego! Comment from : @CarlaVanWalsum8 |
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I’ve had this in my watch later for years and just watched it right now I made a poem in high school a few years ago about this topic My teachers used to say and continue to say that you’re going to be nothing but a number in university, at your job, and in the future in general So many of my friends who were phenomenal people and smart and talented developed anxiety and suffered with their mental health because so much pressure was put on students at a young age and we constantly feel like if we mess up in high school that’ll affect any career opportunities in the future and ultimately the rest of your life Now in university, burnout is so prevalent and perfection is the standard that we hold ourselves to because of our need for academic and career-based validation Comment from : @malakjammal3306 |
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♡ed this needed to hear this thank you! Comment from : @april-leecarter9153 |
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This is one of the best TED talks I've ever watched Thank you so much ma'am I really appreciate that you've spoken to us about this Comment from : @ruthadodo3207 |
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When i have a child I’m gonna remember this Comment from : @JordanChanDan |
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Great video !!!!! Comment from : @hsallam2008 |
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This is a FAIR statement- Jessie Smith Comment from : @jessies16 |
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As an oriental, the first half hit sooo hard Comment from : @kaisersozen |
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Very very well articulated I have heard so many people on the same philosophy, but this lady is flawless in her expression! Comment from : @amritapuntambekar386 |
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Balance, is all Comment from : @malikmuhammadqasimqasim4785 |
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We need more parents like thisgreat concept Comment from : @swatiupasani8008 |
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Absolutely incredible speech Comment from : @rose8968 |
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Learn parenting from Chinese parents that makes China become a great nation Comment from : @Ddogartt |
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this is the absolute best ted talk speakerever <3 Comment from : @timfriday9106 |
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Too good 👌👌👌 Comment from : @nhealthlifestyle |
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She is a captivating speaker! Comment from : @pripls9607 |
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8:55 Comment from : @rimuru3108 |
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I love this lady's speech voice It's powerful and full of feelings❤❤❤ Comment from : @moonsunjo1792 |
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I love this insightful speech filled with humor It's really educative Comment from : @winkywhite2759 |
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Powerful Comment from : @anthonymmeek |
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When i got out of high school and went to college when i lived at home an i had to help with extra bills an i still had chores an its like this time an day has changed an everyone is grown af an sometimes everyone has to grow an be an adult an u cant baby kids now an i have a young child that i will push an she will be responsible an be raised how i was raise and at the end of the year if things dont change and im taking action and im gone💯💯 Comment from : @jeromeclark8102 |
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I didn't understand, what are we supposed to do again? As parents Comment from : @bawabro |
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When I was young, I hated doing chores I spent all my time coding Now, I have a full time maid and chef Don’t believe everything you watch Comment from : @bluedevilzn |
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This video is propaganda because it’s simply impractical and this definition of success is warped The divorce rate is devastating because of lack of commitment Statistically 1 in 2 children will be raised in a broken home The majority of kids have psychological effects as we can see with society A successful child is happy in life not anxious from ridiculous expectations out of selfish interests of the parent Comment from : @haroldcox3103 |
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Amazing 😍🤩 Comment from : @malikasebou5562 |
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Exactly ❤ Comment from : @SunflowerVersatility |
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Make kids to chores FYI Comment from : @rehmsmeyer |
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Not a dad yet Only 24 but I’m here already 😂 Comment from : @tjmokhuane5754 |
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Lady thank you very much ❤ Comment from : @ludegodine6271 |
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Me as a teen watching this: Comment from : @bassboostor325 |
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Amazing!!! This is so true Comment from : @yenissegonzalez5564 |
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We all want the best for our children but don’t all have the tools we need to be better parents I needed more talks like this not a Lamaze class before my children were born Thank you ❤ Comment from : @heidiclark8309 |
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Some people have chosen to forgo college I for one am sick of the idea that people are not good enough unless they go to college People literally worship knowledge and think that a piece of paper in a frame on the wall defines you as a person It's all one great illusion Comment from : @eyesoffire2325 |
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omg she made me so anxious with her tension i couldnt watch it Comment from : @ellikaradima6027 |
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It's kind of funny that all the assumptions she's making about how parents treat their kids are focused on those weird ivy-league-or-bust type parents, but I guess those parents are much more likely to constitute the audience at a TED talk I don't think most parents are like this Comment from : @ekahn |
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👍 Comment from : @islamheaven3733 |
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💯: your child will thrive when you give them unconditional love and self autonomy ❤ Comment from : @readingtorelaxwithbao |
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Lady you nailed itbrbrExcatly what i went trough and now i am experiencing problems as you described Comment from : @bajkerjohnvolta |
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A wonderful talk, love it sooooo much Comment from : @haleyy_pris |
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Very much depends on your definition of successful Comment from : @neddyladdy |
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❤️ Comment from : @priyagajbhiye3007 |
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Human love, unconditional love(not because of grades, just because Empathy ) Comment from : @Felix-og7pd |
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Oh yes, I ask that question everyday: how's school? Did you eat your lunch? Anything interesting at school? Is it a good school day tho? Both kids everyday I ask lol Comment from : @nenabishop4482 |
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Great talk and ideas ruined by the unreasonably many laughs and applause Were they thinking that it was a stand-up comedy show? So frustrating brbrLearned good things, though Thanks to the speaker! Comment from : @iTurkiQ |
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