The truth about being "emotionally unavailable"

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Story of my life Still struggle to accept this has anything to do with my childhood My mum is very loving and my sister is the opposite of me I struggle with life so much every day, and it makes me feel broken
Comment from : @TheRoarWithin

A dear, sweet man
Comment from : @velvetbees

Nobody cares about the emotionally unavailable men ! They choose to be unavailable …this itself it’s unforgivable
Comment from : @fishstickbio594

Wow it all makes sense So many people are walking around just as he described Thank you for keeping the videos on the internet 😊
Comment from : @ginachucheong7053

I tried to humor myself to make this sort of relationship work It never seemed like a deal breaker I even made comical but cutesy pet names for him like "Cactus" & "Shark" I wanted out I was starved for affection and attention At the end of the day, he had his reasons, but I had my reality
Comment from : @Pacifica74

I deserve love and an emotionally available person, no longer seeking emotional unavailability
Comment from : @SD-rm5ty

Rest with God!
Comment from : @catherinemasak1321

How can I expand my awareness This is my Husband This is what his mother and father did to him He was left with his mum friends and lived in away he wasn't to be heard I have separated from my husband now He been the hardest, strangest person I have ever met!
Comment from : @jadecollins8697

I no doubt carry many of these wounds he had described However, if you can't afford therapy, what difference does it make Most community health organizations lead by the county, do not have the expertise or trained staff to address them I've just started therapy, and after 4 seesions suggested that i speak with her supervisor That's what's ill be doing next Why does it seem that people who reach out, get rejected, or always have to start over There in no doubt that our mental health in this country is in real crises
Comment from : @chuck3999

Switching between lessons gets a bit confusing
Comment from : @rdtrdt1987

Wow I'm here in 2022
Comment from : @hershelwilkerson4230

fuck society
Comment from : @solrify

My mother raised me and my twin brother, father left when i was 3 and i believe that mom took out her hatred on us not once did my mother say i love you or hugged either one of us, no toys, no birthday parties, no christmas gifts, looking back i just had my brother who was going through the same issues 50 years later, we both have relationship issues as for myself self esteem issues but the one feeling that gets me is feeling empty, feeling like a robot in a humans world acting out a feeling cause i myself don't feel it it's a very strange feeling because i know it's not normal my brother almost killed himself in his early 20's thank god he didn't we are both successful and have little money issues but i suffer through this empty feeling every day
Comment from : @live1336

Write About anything it will help you to get less afraid & down
Comment from : @kimlec3592

0:50 yes I am that guy and I am trying to help myselfbrMy girlfriend's mom told me that my girlfriend feels I am emotionally unavailable and she is considering breaking up but doesn't want to brthis is the most humbling experience I've had in a while and I am devoted to trying to become a better person
Comment from : @getchaloot2097

i have a video on this topic for anyone interested in more clarity<3 love and light
Comment from : @rainydaywish

Dude can you stop whistling when you make the 's' sound -- unwatchable
Comment from : @hughjainis8302

This man is one of the most understanding men I've ran across He has helped me understand myself tremendously Bless you sir
Comment from : @commonman711

Look in the mirror who do I see? Is that frightened child really me?
Comment from : @trevsedgwick3324

rest in peace king
Comment from : @auruelai81

Well, you beautifully described my husband You left out the parts about his selfish, non-reciprocal, sneaky behaviors, and pathological lying Should I still feel nothing but compassion for a person like this?
Comment from : @minaharker2664

Thank you I'd like to point out though a difficulty that I came across while listening to your speech And it has to do with the pronunciation of "s" while you are talking which sounds a little too sharp for my ear, and makes it difficult to watch Other than that, your experience shines through
Comment from : @jayar2022

Aww that’s tragic! He’s left behind a colossal legacy and a dedicated resource that I’m trying to work right through God Bless You Gerlach!
Comment from : @grandbleutrev

I’m sorry but most people in the UK are like this, I think their parenting methods have failed them there!
Comment from : @LTNeila

In other words ‘don’t crucify me’😂
Comment from : @-Guru

This one makes more sense each time you watch it This stuff works Good health to all viewers!
Comment from : @mikeb4256

His concept of grown wounded children (GWC) ties in nicely with Dr Webbs concept of childhood emotional neglect (CEN) They were both on to the same thing, they just had different language and views on it God bless Mr Gerlach-it was generous of him to leave his videos behind to help people I wish his family well
Comment from : @treehuggerdude4

Inherited is the correct word, the things that people don't see or know
Comment from : @samihaislam3487

the problem is i am to good at pretending, people dont think i am phony, they dont even realize whats going on in my head, i actually tried telling some people how i actually feel, but they didnt believe me, they said i am just sad right now or in a bad mood I gave up and just put my mask on again, its easier that way and its not like i dont have anyone my cousin and my brother are the only ones i share atleast some of the real me with
Comment from : @damiem9449

I developed BPD from my childhood trauma It causes the very mindset and behaviors he describes here
Comment from : @patriciachambersprinceprin2160

Rest well, good man
Comment from : @reysharp

I dont understand why somebody would seek help for being emotionally inavailable, that is a bless in this narcissisticly sick society
Comment from : @stasamiklavec713

Sounds a lot like narcissism! While the past abuse is very sad, these people often destroy everyone, and everything around them
Comment from : @gentleasa5728

I love his videos he has so much knowledge may God bless his soul
Comment from : @shorty523

am I emotionaly unavailable?
Comment from : @markoperic5023

Rest in peace good man
Comment from : @francoisnel5253

Damn bro why’d you have to call me out like that
Comment from : @seandoran8588

2110 angel number alignment synchronicity sign
Comment from : @iamalignedandfocused5452

This is me & my hubby sadly 😢
Comment from : @jayvondah8373

This sounds like narcissism
Comment from : @decoder3449

Thank u for ur knowledge it will ripple for generations and help so many New to channel
Comment from : @82566

What's up with all the whistles when you talk?
Comment from : @stbam1965

Hurt people hurt people
Comment from : @goldier2264

Hating that I'm emotionally unavailable
Comment from : @bonezbaaaby

I’m definitely a GWC
Comment from : @iamchannelll

I care for my loved one so much but tired of being pushed away without explanation or warning Hurts
Comment from : @swordofgod2835

R u talking about me?
Comment from : @mariadefatima6469

How do u love them?
Comment from : @staciecook5217

I am recovering from severe traumas from childhood as well as adulthood and it’s been awhile I’ve felt things but what’s crazy is that I felt sad when I saw your videos and I realised you’re no longer on this worldbrCrazy man who would’ve thought your influence could be so deep brbrYou will always be Known for someone who has made an emotionally and psychologically fucked up guy for making him “Feel” brI lost my Grandma, my only caregiver I had who passed away 4 years ago and I couldn’t even grieve her death cause I couldn’t feel a thing but it’s weird how I am feeling for you It’s weird may be I will get to grieve the death of my Grandma this year as well
Comment from : @thelostwolf4832

Made me an ice cold killa and I wouldn't have it any other way
Comment from : @bigol9223

I've forgiven my dad for what he did to me but I do belive he can do better now 40 years later
Comment from : @gregrhodes2171

The whistling “S’s” drive me nuts
Comment from : @Paarthurnaxdova

You describe my ex to a T I really think he is the perfect man for me, except for this obstacle that's getting in the way He ended our relationship even though we were so happy He completely sabotage the good thing I realize now that he needs serious help in order to truly be in a loving relationship It's such a shame because I really did love that man and I can tell that he loved me But there's nothing I can do to make him snap out of it He has to hit rock bottom and do the work himself
Comment from : @Banana-lk7tf

thank you at last i don't feel like im lying
Comment from : @lanadelreysfuckinfootmat2181

MeI think 🤔
Comment from : @Mllascelles1

Sorry the long comments I wrote were erased
Comment from : @margotlarsen2439

I'm scared to do this, I've even been to therapy but she didnt help much I got a lot off my chest but I dont feel any further forward I'm going to do this and stop dipping in and out
Comment from : @----_

Neglect, abandonment I don't feel happy in my skin As male I don't do bad things I am good n kind
Comment from : @mariamkinen8036

This video was a priceless counselling for me, which exactly explains my personality Avoidant/ unavailable/ isolated I never understood who was I and why do I behave like this Sir, actually your work/videos have/ will be saving a lot of wounded souls like me Sir Peter Gerlach, may thy soul RIP thank you for understanding who/how I've become this person I will take every advice in your recommended lesson Peace & Love
Comment from : @AdrianG78

Thank you for your professional insight Mr Gerlach, I'm very thankful you shared this
Comment from : @Rosare

wise man
Comment from : @jacobschirmacher5567

Thanks for sharing your Knowledge! Eye opening
Comment from : @miriamkleinert4803

bgood on you, Sir/b Ran across your video, Today
Comment from : @geargail

I'm a 14 and this hits hard Although many people would just say I'm just a moody teen Until 6th grade I was abused by my mother She hurt me so much and I wasn't able to be like the other kids still to this day If I am asked about my feelings towards romantic love, I feel as if I have none I have been a bit alienated because people just didn't understand I have no friends, just acquaintances I find it very difficult to socialize and am self loathing My mom made it very clear that she didn't love my dad when I was younger and especially me I am extremely afraid of falling in love, I detest it She told me that it dies out once a couple becomes older I know many people can refute what she said But it seems as if I'l be like how I am for the rest of my life
Comment from : @inspiringer6418

Dr Gerlach hits the nail on the head once again He left a trove of treasure with his videos God bless his soul
Comment from : @ralph7545

I have not been labeled emotionally unavailable however my dating partners always seem to be! I have 4 out of the 6 wounds😊
Comment from : @newbeginnings1543

Can narcissists be a result of that I had a childhood trauma but im the opposite,a co dependant
Comment from : @johnmiller-jf3ez

This video changed my life I feel more securely prepared to confront the biggest psychological barriers Thank you for making this video
Comment from : @hellogoodbye11923

You never truly know anyone Most relationships are built on dependency Emotional unavailable people depend on nothing
Comment from : @inoclasism

Wow
Comment from : @underxratedxrage

Great explanation sir! Now I know to pay close attention to a person's childhood, if they haven't gotten therapy or did a healing journey through their childhood pain and moved on to become better I'm leaving them alone Because they will drag you into their wounds themselves and expect you to lick them for them
Comment from : @diamondunicorn2421

Hits close to home, thank you sir
Comment from : @ironsharpensiron4580

Basically these people are abused into being sociopaths
Comment from : @moonmissy

My father was and still is emotionally unavailable We had very few one on one personal talks, very few talks about my day or me in general Everything kind of centred around some topic he knew so much about and me listening To this day I can't respect him as a father, he was a good provider but he never made me who I am and I struggled a lot as a teenager with issues such as loneliness and depression and severe ace and he never took notice or really seemed to care much at all, only if my mother showed some caring did he try to show he cared I'm not quite sure if my dad is high in disagreeableness or very narcissisticbrbrbrI think because of him I became emotionally unavailable myself I avoided friendships and revealing myself and still to this day I tend to listen to other people during a conversation and not reveal much about myself unless they ask I've made a lot of strides, I've made some friendships with people who are similar to me, I asked a girl out recently, I'm speaking more about myself and being honest about myselfbrbrbrI'm still in my head because I'm introverted by nature and I don't like the idea of many friends, just a few who GET IT, you know what I mean?
Comment from : @James-bt9dr

Unfortunately My mother is this way
Comment from : @sophiadavenport3959

You can be wounded emotionally available This video is a generalisation and most people have at least one wound Mental disorders eg Aspergers make me emotionally unavailable too
Comment from : @yoya4766

So what's the difference between friends and acquaintances?
Comment from : @royalty2924Love

If you find yourself becoming thrown off while attempting to listen to this content due to the lisp sound, I suggest viewing this video with foam ear plugs in your ear canals to decrease the intensity Phew much better Now I'm going back to the beginning
Comment from : @chriswhiteiii

In other words, people who cannot bond Hitler was such a person, as was Charles Manson And even one of our presidents in the 1990s (and no, it's not Donald Trump He's merely a narcissist)
Comment from : @mcbrion1951

Your the best out there on these topics I feel compassion for people I couldn't understand before
Comment from : @briannaw7226

It's funny because I started watching this video about a guy I'm seeing and it ended up describing me Lately, I've been thinking about how like attracts like and trying to figure out in what ways I'm emotionally unavailable and this video really put things into perspective
Comment from : @kimbo8979

I have a sibling like this Our mother was a narcissistic and alcoholic This really helps me not take personally my siblings coldness and lack of love to me
Comment from : @jlroussin

I use to be this way, but after my Mom passed, it took me down a path so dark I had to wake ☝ Ppl it's easy to become a sociopath I communicate everything now, the good & bad
Comment from : @lessaheart7422

I’m somewhat like this I will give the shirt off my back I’m just not emotionally available for a relationship So bad that I don’t value the woman I’m with I just don’t care for em like that
Comment from : @LostNTheMusic1