Emotionally Unavailable Psychology

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Clay, when you were describing the emotionally unavailable man, all I could think of was that you're describing every woman I've ever known As far as I know, I'm a completely emotionally available man, yet it seems like all the women that I end up with are always acting like emotionally unavailable men So I completely give up I don't want anything to do with anybody anymore I'm going to be completely celibate and alone the rest of my life
Comment from : Cory Williams

Wow The algorithm really did its thing I was wondering why someone who ended things w/me keeps coming back & also, why I can’t seem to go back to him It’s this I’ve been working on being emotionally available since 2018 5 years later, I finally AM I met him last year, when I was still unavailable So proud of me So yes people, it took me 5 years to be emotionally available (at least I think I am) Yes, it takes that long smh Thanks Clay!
Comment from : Nodi

Too many ads in between ruins the experience !
Comment from : Akanksha Swarnim

i came in to hear about the emotionally unavailable man cuz my ex, and glad i continue listen and learn to be aware of myself can be emotionally unavailable and repel the good people away from me
Comment from : yq YOLO

Being single 4 almost 5 yrs made me wake up and realise I'm the problem and still need to heal
Comment from : Renee Enright

Emotional unavailability is neglect and is a form of abuse It's tempting to give the other person a chance to open up We want to proof ourselves to them I wish they knew how damaging it is for their partner's mental health When it happens repeatedly it can truly push someone on the edge of suicide thinking they don't deserve anyone good in life And they that they are worthless
Comment from : Laurene D

I have to accept a woman with a bunch of kids in problems because is wrong to be alone
Comment from : ADAM PELLOT

this is the first video that actually helped me understand! I must be emotionally unavailable also and had no clue until now I do want to work on this, because I am so tired of repeating it over and over, I want a loving relationship
Comment from : Boop the Sulcata Tortoise

What about the Unmeshment Families? Do you feel that plays a role in unemotionally available men/women relationships? Thank you in advance!
Comment from : Jenell Zalinko

Good listen!
Comment from : blj33

ok posting another comment already, i probably learned from this video a lot more than i have learned in the last year
Comment from : Just Joy

wow! first video i see from you but wow this is such a great videoQQQQ
Comment from : Just Joy

This describes my whole life lol Thanks
Comment from : Candace l

It’s typically thought of as men being emotionally unavailable but I found plenty of women that are as well
Comment from : John Smith

Hey, I enjoyed your video, and have subscribed temporarilybrhowever I would love to see you elaborate on one thing… I happen to be incredibly emotionally available… And there’s no doubt about this… And yet, 23 years ago I married a man that I knew was emotionally unavailable, because I loved all the other things about him… And I saw it as a matter of maturity… I simply thought he would grow out of it… Well he never did… But I do get a little tired of people suggesting that I must also be emotionally unavailable just because I chose him… These people tend to have remarkable qualities, except in this one way they’re stunted
Comment from : Emma Group

2:57, 8:22
Comment from : Vind

Great vid but as all inclusive as it is, it leaves out the paradox & highly complex topic of emotionalally unavailable partners Those who ARE in a relationship or marriage & think they are ready for one, but literally do not behave appropriately & are emotionally shut off from how they were raised & attachment style They also have extremely difficult time explaining their feelings in a healthy way or communicating in a way that respects yours, bc they themselves are so disconnected w their own feelings I've lived with dealing w this dynamic from my bf for 5 years & I'm seeing a councelor bc I'm losing it Whether he goes is another story
Comment from : Melis Joy

I’m married to a one 🥺
Comment from : Su Ra

Damn…this is hard…now i am more available than before Long and hard journey - so much suffering Anyway :) take care
Comment from : TonyA TonyA

I’m sick to my stomach listening to this I can’t be this way anymore
Comment from : Sue F

😒😐damnit
Comment from : Sue F

Perfect explanation
Comment from : L P

How do you become emotionally available again?
Comment from : Jason Lopez

Here’s the thing I was texting him often he wants space so I’m giving it to him now he’s probably emotionally unavailable but idk if I ruined a chance we are friends he’s kissed me in the past one day and says he wasn’t in the right headspace he just wants to be friends he stares at me though loves hugging me doesn’t mind me touching him playfully and says cares about me and says that’ll never change He just isn’t ready for anyone he says and doesn’t know if he will bebrI need advice is that a sign of emotional unavailability and how can it end up good or better cause I like and care about him Thank you
Comment from : That Gamer

The truth is I believe the unavailable man wants you to do something that is not usual, like most men do not get surprise gifts or help so when a woman does it suddenly or surprisingly it triggers something in the man to know he is really dealing with a rare woman and this wins his confidence, also remember his birthday and say sweet things making him feel special will definitely unlock an unavailable man I am speaking from experience, people have different love languages just find it or atleast try Thanks
Comment from : Alex Confidence

wow I’m Brocken and I feel terrible about it I wish I could change I really do 😔
Comment from : Luis Imbert

I think this happens to me and I had never thought about myself as an emotional unavailable women because I had one or two normal and healthy relationships, but i think you're spot on I am indeed looking for validation in some man Some of them, i am pretty sure I wouldn't even feel atracted to if they like me to start with It's pretty messed up Will definitely work on it thanks for the video :)
Comment from : Isabel Mota

Thank God I found this video It was a breakthrough for me brbrThank you Clay
Comment from : Mothodus

GREAT Video! Wow!
Comment from : Agnes-Julie Martin

Amazing video thank you so much
Comment from : Laura

This is so true to me and to my exWowI'm an emotionally unavailable woman and Im so drawn to my emotionally unavailable manmy jaw just dropped! Wow😮
Comment from : Jessie

Wow! This helps me a bunch?thank you for your explanation
Comment from : Laura Beigh

This is a hard topic for you Your nonverbal cues tell a story of why you teach this It is all clear 😇 but I am here as well - so thank you for being vulnerable It is much appreciated
Comment from : Brandi Nicole

I am an emotionally available woman and I have almost always been attracted to available men In fact I don't even feel safe with unavailable men In a way I can relate more to the man you're describing than the woman Im not really looking for validation from partners, but I do break up with partners if they do not withhold a certain ideal I do attract available men but Im always intimidated by their deep capability of intimacy, hence the running away
Comment from : LadyLuck

I'm dating an EU person- he seem like he does love me buthe's really distant brI wanna learn more about EU so I'll know how to handle him- butbrShould I stay or should I go? brI do love him and I want to be there for him, he just might be scared but from what? He won't answer me of coursebrBut I'm not giving up
Comment from : Green Tea

I’m a women, and both describe me perfectly!?!!?
Comment from : Kayla Jackson

I disagree with why an unemotional woman would want to be with a man like this It’s really because they are comfortable with the lack of love, they’ve never had it so it’s normal, they are used to not being important, a priority, included, praised It’s all they know so they stay with these types of men
Comment from : Jeanie B

Thankyou for this ,I know now I’m probably an emotionally unavailable women,and have been talking to a guy for 3 years now and have strong feelings for him & visa versa but we only met up one time and now I know why 🙈 this makes me feel like a fool but lesson learned 👍 thanks again X
Comment from : Laydijayne

That's why I avoid online-dating cause such sites are full of men with FOMO
Comment from : s w

Valentines Day is coming up also I know better than to buy a gift, and send it I have learned to stop being so nice in that way Should I contact her on that day???
Comment from : Christopher Sanders

What causes a man or woman too become emotionally unavailable?
Comment from : Jaime Kroske

11:49 AND UH That’s great! 😂😂😂omg so hilarious
Comment from : crystal zapata

I am only 14 and extremely emotionally unavailable I believe that because of this I am selfish I don’t know what to do Being emotionally available makes me uncomfortable and scares me a bit
Comment from : calliope

literally the SECOND i get into a relationship i'm thinking about how there's no point because it's inevitably gonna end is that bad ? 😬
Comment from : Emily Masters

Clay, thank you so much It honestly feel like you’re talking to me directly and described me 100 percent I almost cried because this is a shocking revelation
Comment from : Mrs Jones

What would you say about people who can be flexible being in either emotionally available or emotionally unavailable relationships depending on what the other person wants?
Comment from : Mayito33

Wow thank you this really helped me understand a lot of what happened to me
Comment from : Katie

That man is me yikes
Comment from : Federico Cardenas

I’m the first one but I’m a girl
Comment from : oshie skoshi

I watched this video because I think I may be an emotionally unavailable woman I appreciate the content of this video, however —and I hope this is constructive criticism— I felt that the way you described emotionally unavailable women was a little degrading I don't necessarily want to be defined by who I am attracted to My emotional unavailability is no more related to my childhood ("daddy issues") than it is for a man I connected more with what you said about emotionally unavailable men who, by the way, are ALSO attracted to emotionally unavailable women for the same reasons Looking for perfection is also true for emotionally unavailable women I am really perplexed by your way of separating the two experiences—and again, that's not to say that I don't appreciate your time and effort doing this video Maybe this has to do with traditional psychology and how it is taught, but I think nowadays some questioning of those methods is valid and welcome especially when one has a platform I would love to see an explanation of the distinction in the comments Thank you
Comment from : ihavethefluagain

This is so true sadly I am the emotionally unavailable woman
Comment from : Cleora Aleise

I met Perfect and Respectful men in every sense but I was never in love I admired their Talent but never them gave them words of vanity and reassurances I never feltand couldn’t stay with anyone for more than 3-4 months I’m really Grateful to Them but I wish I didn’t have to force myself to fall in love
Comment from : EditThisThot

Emotional available people's get hurt and disappointed most
Comment from : Nelson

I actually don't know this kind of person exist Thank you 😊 now it solved mysteries of a person that i know If he being like this, im no longer actually wanted to know about him (being emotionally unavailable man) goodbye 👋 p/s, eventho there were a lot of good conversations we had before, i just realised that i will even being hurting if this is the case
Comment from : Nur Shahida

I am definitely with a person who is emotionally unavailable she can't even kiss me I have to initiate everything and it feels like she's Halo
Comment from : Johnathon Chaney

You could probably more easily speak about this if you used "the EU man, or the EU woman" Just a suggestion We all would still understand what you're trying to say without the longer verbiage
Comment from : Adriana Raina

Love this
Comment from : Reena Debroy

I feel like I’ve become emotionally unavailable man to cope with life
Comment from : ALPHA

Boys can never say they love you Boys, they ain’t allowed to cry Boys can never catch no feelings Boys can never ask why Boys can never show their weakness Boys can never back down Boys can never say their in love, even if their in it right now
Comment from : Miles PQ

I know i am like this but i feel like another interesting point is men seem drawn to me because they see me as a challenge They feel like I play hard to get when basically I’m not , I’m just reluctant to let someone in my life because of my past experiences 🤔
Comment from : Lydia P

I am a emotionally unattached person, and it does not make me happy But it does make me successful By being distant, and cold, I am able to get girls to obsess about me By being open and loving, they like me as a friend So, given the choice between happiness, and getting laid, I sadly have to do what I must to get laid It’s a grim calculation, but it’s an accurate one
Comment from : Master Erakius

This is excellent
Comment from : Dana

Fantastic content So illuminating! Very grateful Thank you!!
Comment from : Dana

She broke up with me because she sensed that my feelings were growing for her and hers were not She also said that we were not emotionally connected and wanted to break it off before I got hurt
Comment from : GotFlow5

This literally is the best video on the internet explaining the issue - that’s exactly what I’ve been dealing with the last three guys and I’m sick and tired of this Just want to meet a kind, genuine, honest and emotionally available person instead of emotionally unavailable, self focused, evasive, distant men
Comment from : agamng

This is an amazing analysis Thank you
Comment from : DeAnne Millais

You just explained me I am an emotionally unavailable man, how do I fix this?
Comment from : Gloria Bekdemir

I'm just too scared I dont like being available emotionally for someone even if I like them or getting attracted I feel what if he's playing me or maybe he is just showing interest now later he will be different
Comment from : Pritika

I m a emotionally unavailable man I don’t want to be one but I don’t know how not to be one For some reason, people fall for me easily, so I hurt many people, and I m hurt cos of it too
Comment from : 春生夏

You were made for this 👌🏼☺️
Comment from : SNR💕

As you were describing the emotionally unavailable man You described me from top to bottom and I'm a woman 😱
Comment from : LadyD 104

I disagree What you are describing is a selfish narcissist not emotionally unavailable Most anxious avoidance men do it because they do not understand emotions at all due to childhood trauma
Comment from : Dovakin

interesting
Comment from : Starseeds Unite

Answered a lot of my questions Thanks a lot for this video Love from India
Comment from : Musafir Shri

I am an emotionally unavailable woman i relate to everything he said and I am not a bad person but its just that I cannot be with someone who is not perfect not only physically but in different aspects like he loves me the way I want him to love me he to talk me in a way I like and if he doesn't it feels like he's not the right person and should wait for the perfect one
Comment from : Gunjan Hans

For me it was being taught men aren't emotional and being raised around a violent psychopath that manipulated people with emotions Being punished for trying to love someone It wasnt being overwhelmed by choice, but I can agree that it stems from being overwhelmed The mental construct is the anima Most young men dont have to be emotionally available because young women are so physically available And from my experience being overtly emotional with a woman tends to make them loose attraction Though that varies
Comment from : s sandus

Can an emotionally unavailable man change if they love you enough?
Comment from : Rebekah Tinker

I'm an EU woman and i made thecfirst steps in letting go of the EU guys Now how do I fix me? When men are "too interested in me" it scares me and makes me feel like they are being to desperate or needy But i see now that it just feels uncomfortable because I'm used to being rejected and not good enough
Comment from : AmaLoveGoddessTV

I have heard that statement before when you said that an emotionally unavailable woman would be disinterested in an emotionally available man and I agree to everything you said about the past of that kind of a woman, yes that has been my experience But what do you do when you set the boundaries and you NEVER meet someone who is emotionally available? I have met guys coming out of a restaurant, online dating, dated in church and everyone has been emotionally unavailable I know some would say it’s my energy and I agree, but how can I fix it? Without trying to fix the person because I know that’s a no-no I want a loving relationship But I don’t think I have ever met someone who’s emotionally available I also had a very traumatic childhood, and I have a very toxic religious family I’m striving to rebuild and redirect my old habitsI hope someone can give me some feedback
Comment from : cameron vlad

mind blowing
Comment from : itaekumba Jah

Information on point Thank you SO much for this video Very helpful
Comment from : Christina Pistone

Thumbs up
Comment from : Mason Kirby

This was almost perfectly accurate with my ex and I except that I as a woman am the unavailable man, and my ex as the man was the unavailable woman He was always insecure and scared of loosing me and the more he did that he pushed me further away And I was the one seeking the perfect partner of which he had many shortcomings aside from the biggest ones being his jealousy, insecurity and clingyness But I believe I have changed and want him back now but he has moved on from me😔 and is now in a rebound All these tips never talk about how to get an ex back if you were the emotionally unavailable person
Comment from : kimberleigh brown

Loved how you kept it simple about the he/hers pronauns
Comment from : Marcio Official The Singer

I disagree with the idea that people are emotionally unavailable because they are overwhelmed by options or afraid of commitment I would argue that stems from a deeper fear of losing their identity, by being overwhelmed/smothered by the other personbrbr"Emotionally unavailable" is a one-size-fits-all buzz word these days You would be better off talking about attachment theories and how the specific thought processes/fears of each style affect people in relationships
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