Avoidant Attachment

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I’m 55 and have been told that I have no empathy and would feel such shame because that’s not a good thing, right? I also thought I’m bad and there’s nothing I can do about it But listening to this I realise that I’m not a bad person I’m just disconnected because of my upbringing! Thanks you, Dr Honda!! I have to find a therapist that can help me untangle this but for the first time I have some hope… I’m literally in tears typing this Thank you so much… words cannot express…
Comment from : R F

My ex expressed absolutely no emotion to my sobs This is when I understood he was in fact a dangerous, narcissistic person
Comment from : Ashley Jones

This describes me
Comment from : Vintagebaby Seventy three

I consider myself avoidant attached but I think I shut down positive emotions more so than negative ones And I think I’m empathetic but maybe more that I can relate logically but without feeling it emotionally Now my friend is in a new relationship and wants me to be happy for her but I’m having trouble accessing those happy feelings and that makes her think I’m not supportive and it’s causing a real divide between us
Comment from : Lana Gustafson

Appreciate you 🤗
Comment from : Sandra Hamalwa

Avoidant people are sociopaths
Comment from : Pete

What I’ve learned 8 months with an avoidant : brbrInitially they shower you with attention and affection, you get wrapped up in them that you miss the signs of their deflection and avoidance (ie they dont give alot of detail about themselves, they come off as cold, theyll avoid replying to certain text messages and eventually, when they feel their independence is being threatened, they avoid your texts and calls) brbrMixed Signals: brThey give mixed signals— one on hand its “My ability to open up comes in drips Im not that open” “I dont want to hurt you” (After theyve lied and hurt you)brto immediately after:br“I really like you, I cant believe youre real I like you I miss you Can we talk later?” 😮😮brbrThey dont realize that the very De-isolating strategies they use to keep themselves safe (pulling away, keeping distance, avoiding them), hurts and pushes their love interest away 😮
Comment from : Rupert Periwinkle

This is my gf Lack of empathy
Comment from : Shelley S

It’s a vicious cycle because as an avoidant I’ve lost a lot of friends because people say I’m cold or un-empathetic and I haven’t been able to get good therapy so I’m like … idk what to say, I’m trying… that’s why I value so much the friends who’ve stayed in my life and accepted / loved me for who I am… flawed as I am
Comment from : The Common Sense Capricorn

I love your explanation of this! It makes a lot of sense to me now
Comment from : Amanda Jo

If a parent has always cried to 'get what they want' from you in childhood: You won't see other people crying as painful stimuli, but as emotional manipulation (like ultimatums and etc) It's another reason why the empathy is a bit stunted brbrI was very empathetic towards my mother during hard times, but she's a 'prankster' She retracts her tears and laughs it off when I came to her aid So, I'm very weary to people crying around me I feel the pain, but I don't respond to it unless I have additional info (or I look for lies constantly)
Comment from : Kymber S M