Signs You Have Avoidant Attachment Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Self Help

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I have no doubt that my attachment style is Dismissive Avoidant for sure The one major thing that never makes sense to me is that I truly do not ever remember feeling unloved or uncared for by my parents I'm not saying they were perfect, but if there was any emotional neglect going on, to this day I was at least mercifully unaware of itbrI wonder how much of this (at least in the case of a DA) is simply the temperament you're born with which could have made it difficult for a parent to connect even if they really tried tobrI also wonder if parents (perhaps like mine) could've been neglectful but in a loving way if that makes sense? In other wordsI wonder if they could've actively downplayed our distress, constantly redirected, and encouraged self reliance not out of neglect, but out of misguided concern to help soothe us and make us feel empowered in hopes of lowering our anxiety levels and ironically raising our confidence??
Comment from : jhlfsc

Wow! Thank you!
Comment from : Ron Havill

that hits home to late now to fix it it's my life at my age of m 53
Comment from : Keith

NORMALLY, I am a Secure attachment type But if my mate turns out to engage routinely in Anxious attachment behaviors, I've historically responded by pulling away, exhibiting increasing Avoidant/Dismissive-style behaviors brIs this just a normal response of even Secure types to Anxious types, or does it mean I'm Avoidant overall?
Comment from : KAZ

No one can beat doc Snipes in explaining these psychological approaches! Thank you!
Comment from : zamzam ahmed

I just found you and I think I'm disorganized attachment I'm kind of freaking out haha I'm so scared that I'm going to do the same think to my children How can I tell if I am? How can I make sure my unstable relationship tendencies don't bleed into my relationship with my children ( and husband) ?
Comment from : Faith Simpson

It's sad, how fucked up parents who weren't meant to be parents brought children in the world and destroyed their lives for good!
Comment from : Afrina Khanam

Every insecure attachment ideally needs a secure person There aren’t enough to go around lol
Comment from : expand

why did i get 9/9 💀
Comment from : _Calvzz

I feel aweful, my parents broke me 😢 and this reflects me
Comment from : Yon niii san

Thank you, Doc Snipes, for this explanation of the Avoidant Attachment style I wished I knew this info a long time ago
Comment from : T Hirano

This was so accurate ❤ Thank you! 🙏🏻
Comment from : ValerieVixenArt

This is so good Thank you - I’m understanding why I give up so soon on things I try at
Comment from : Az Haz

Ally life i was in avoidant dismissive bounding styles involved relationships or friendships so tired of this permanent mirroring and triggering all of the time At 40, you just really kind of stop trying not because you dont deserve it or want intimacy its just you're aware of this vicious cycle and see the red flagsbrbrWhat triggers me are these eternally denials of so-called optimistics Its not about staying positive its about being realistic and I can sign to the fact that avoidant and anxious style do catastrophal If you don't believe it try it yourself I myself dont need sny more dramas
Comment from : arbol_de tei

I had supportive parents but I relate to this attachment style
Comment from : michah7214

This is the best video I have seen so far about avoidant attachment Much thanks to you for sharing such valuable information
Comment from : Axi Xi

I also think that it’s not just parenting that does this but it could be a Community environment like school or church for example Because my parents did some of this but I felt mostly rejected at school
Comment from : Purple girl

"Given up on other people" Oh God, 100 times, yes All my relationships and friendships have happened because the other person kept pushing and didn't give up on ME It's terrible
Comment from : Laura FE

I've been a dismissive avoidant for most of my life Managed to largely heal in recent years through self therapy I believe this all started with my covert narcissist father and emotional neglect I didn't feel seen and basically gave up trying I'm also INFJ and felt shamed throughout my teen years for my personality I'm horrified that I've spent so much of my life as a DA 😢
Comment from : Laura FE

true 200, unbelievable
Comment from : Idan

👋😎😸
Comment from : scott thomas

Doc, you have literally changed my life with your videos on attachment Massive thanks for the information
Comment from : Irv

My life 😟
Comment from : Jessica

I'm quite confused because I clearly, without doubt, have avoidant attachment style, but my mom was a great hands on parent She never made me feel needy, she helped with whatever she could, so really not sure why I ended up with this attachment style
Comment from : hayley s

@ 12:39 “They need to feel like they’re empowered, so they need to be the one to set the pace of things”brYou kindly & coherently explained this in a way that gave me relief I’ve always felt guilty for always wanting to be in charge & taking control, that way, nothing catches me by surprise… in relationships of course Thank you 😮😮😮
Comment from : Mary Mary

Best video on avoidant attachment I’ve ever seen…I’ve seen many Thank you for your work
Comment from : Al Thompson

Great helpful well structured, thank youbrbrMaybe would be helpful a video with soecifuc examples of situations in love relationships "how to" move from avoidant to secure
Comment from : Sky10811

What does it mean "poor emotional awareness"? In practice, can u pls give an example
Comment from : Sky10811

Damn I knew it This is me
Comment from : Monkey Dog

¡Gracias!
Comment from : teresa torres

Thank you for helping me and my partner to find out bout our attachment styles and how to work with those We become more aware and understanding and also loving because of knowing that we didn’t have best parenting care That makes me love him even more and we both try to heal each other wounds
Comment from : Agnieszka Weronika Jakubowska

My mother yelled and screamed at me when taking a minute to "help me" learn to ride a bike She got mad and went in the house so I taught myself by using a tree to lean the bike against and push off the tree until I got the balanceto this day she says it is her proudest parent moment and praised me for independencemy choice was to be yelled and screamed at or teach myself, no brainerbut how sad
Comment from : A Voice In The Wilderness

I have avoidant attachment This makes sense Narcissistic parent did not allow us to have needs or show emotion I have ADHD and only got diagnosed at 38 or so
Comment from : A Voice In The Wilderness

I have the avoidant attachment style plus I’m a Capricorn Y’all can only imagine how fucked up I am
Comment from : Leemari

Pretty good! I feel affirmed, many of these tools i've been using Might anxious and avoidant coexist in one? I am/was clingy as hell Once i experienced how self sabotaging that gets, i renounced that Avoidant rules, i resigned from dating But the longing to cling remains unrequited
Comment from : Carlo Rizzo

Are these people loners ?
Comment from : Gold_fig

Avoidance is me Or, that's what I do I gave up on people and I'll never make friends again
Comment from : Buster

Thanks ❤️ ❤️
Comment from : DU DE

Best person for avoidance attachment is someone with secure attachment Wouldn't that just bring the secure attachment down? Like why would they want to lower their self to be with someone insecure
Comment from : adrianna mcclair

Amazing video
Comment from : Evita Montejano

Very Impressed with your video
Comment from : Steven Hershman

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Comment from : Doc Snipes

Fantastic content Sadly if in relationship with someone who is higher in the avoidant spectrum, it's really difficult for even a secure person to remain in relationship with them long term I did my best as a secure person but the avoidant qualities in my partner were almost impossible to manage as they did not have self awareness, even when gently guided over time to the concept of attachment The avoidant has to be aware of the issues and sadly I don't think avoidants are as willing to self reflect as anxious types This relationship has left me broken but I've learned a lot so that's a positive ultimately
Comment from : 1984musicman

Just found you! Now subscribing! Thanks!
Comment from : Portia

I’m done with people in 40’s now! 😂 Joking I’m getting to know people and and I think in my narcissistic relationship I seemed anxiously attached but honestly I have no attachment problems I don’t believe I do at least I think a lot of people do though I’m starting to see that it’s a very strange world out there! I mean honestly how hard is it to change an attachment style?
Comment from : Portia

Can someone explain Or give an example of a parent that is not meeting the needs of a child like I feel like I’ve met the needs of my kids but I don’t think we always do like maybe we miss if they’re depressed does that mean we’re not meeting the needs??? Can someone explain this more what needs like are we just talking about basic food love and care along with other things like getting them involved in activities and being with their friends I mean isn’t that meeting their needs? How many needs is such a big word can we be more specific on what needs to look like I guess is what I’m wanting to know
Comment from : Portia

it's kinda nice just listening to her talk about this I feel heard lol
Comment from : Evie Kuhl

Thanks!
Comment from : Hamless Kiwi

Your channel is so under rated I love the way you explain things
Comment from : Hamless Kiwi

This explains alot😳
Comment from : The Adhd Gardener

this is what Hoarders have
Comment from : Susan Ralph

Don't have time for relationships? That has to be THE most self defeating thing EVER! HOW RIDICULOUS BUT you can keep letting these machines dictate your actions Machines Smh
Comment from : Gramma Mellow

Greetings! Thanks for posting this video! It is of immense help to mepersonally I have faced certain dysfunctional family relationships and also disappointment in love and friendships I am now very reluctant to associate with people intimately! These tips will help me in healing and living life with more positive and trusting discernment! God Bless All! 🥰🙏
Comment from : Glory Dey

This was me most of my life
Comment from : 💫StarlightnDust💫

Can a person be Anxious-Avoidant Attachment style?
Comment from : Annette Lawson-Landry

Doc, I want to say thank you because your videos literally changed my life Last year, I just stumbled upon one of your videos about C-PTSD Before that, I had NEVER even heard of such a thing I didn't have any clue why the last 37 years of my life had been so difficult, and why no amount of SSRIs or talk therapy ever worked for me You gave me the vocabulary to put into words what I have been living all of my life I was able to get the correct diagnoses and meds that I need I was able to start DBT and EMDR in February of this year So your videos are not just informative for the sake of getting CEUs, they're invaluable for those who are struggling but don't have the last few pieces of the puzzle to explain what's going on with them Again, thank you so much and God bless!
Comment from : Erica

Ty
Comment from : xDivinitysCreaturex

Not accurate information Avoidant have high self esteem but low self worth
Comment from : Shane T

What about disorganized attachment?
Comment from : Avatar Anonymous

DrSnipes do you have a video or list of basic Thoughts, Wants and Needs
Comment from : Georgia Piazza

Thank you for this video, it shed a lot of light on my own patterns and has given me some profound insight
Comment from : Love is all we need

Thanks for sharing this, Dr Just to clarify, if a person has total distrust for anyone due to childhood betrayal from a primary caregiver, would this fall under this spectrum of avoidant attachment?
Comment from : Gabriel Seow

Thank you 😊
Comment from : Su 1964 Lawn

Will there be a future video for Anxious-avoidant attachment style? Because that is a whole other beast lol
Comment from : Nadine Alvarez

I think I have anxious and avoidant attachment
Comment from : Swaggy Stacey

Amazing🤔👍
Comment from : Fahima

Thanks 🙏🏼! This is great 👍!
Comment from : Erth Sandoval

What I didn't know about myself🤔
Comment from : william w

Thank you so very much for these videos
Comment from : Ced W

This is so so me
Comment from : Jamison Lamkin

Is it possible for someone to have Anxious Attachment and Avoidant Attachment at the same time?
Comment from : 🖤Angel🖤

Do you have videos on getting rid of relationship anxiety or does this video work for that?
Comment from : cat cat

Thanks!
Comment from : Pramath Malik

Thanks for addressing these troublesome conditions My question is if you’ve done counseling for childhood abuse and neglect and never consciously recognized avoidant tendencies, can you later develop avoidant tendencies from repetitive adult experiences like bullying, gaslighting, silencing, dismissal, betrayal and abandonment?
Comment from : L Row

They tend not to verbalize feeling but may act them out So I try to tell them " it seems like when x happens you tend to_______
Comment from : Ed Green

Hello, thank you for the video What about avoidant personality disorder ? That’s a very distressing condition with very few, to none help available Could you make a video about that ? Thanks !
Comment from : CommonTouch17

Thank you for all you do 🙏
Comment from : aginggenxer

My theroy is Sharing your feelings doesn't make you weak Vulnerable, maybe, to someone who may have unhealthy relationship's in the past
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