Is your depression a symptom of being in a narcissistic relationship?

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I’m stuck in a toxic family with a narcissistic mother unfortunately it’s a financial issue that is keeping me stuck my 47th birthday is coming up in February and the gift I’ve been wanting to give myself most of all is peace and again unfortunately I feel it’s going to mean putting an end to me 😔
Comment from : @user-do6ep9xm3s

I started couple’s therapy with my narcisistic ex partner Unfortunately, the therapist was not educated in narcisism and was charmed by the narcisist The therapy was horrible, luckily I have a very strong intuition, but the therapist believed the narcisistic ex when I felt like he was lying And everything I felt turned out to be true On top she kept saying to me that “he loves you and he will marry you” while he was cheating behind my back the whole time and I felt something was off I really needed professional help and it turned out disaster! Luckily I followed my gut feeling and saw another therapist who told my what I went through the couple’s therapy was abuse from the therapist and narcisistic ex Please be careful when you go to a therapy with a narcisist!
Comment from : @madarakanele7777

I just want to want anything again
Comment from : @TR-ru7tb

@DoctorRamani what would you say is the difference between narcissism and co-dependancy? 3 years on since leaving and I still feel trauma bonded Still not sure if I was a victim of narcissistic abuse or just in a co-dependant relationship (and hence I'm just missing the constant "supporting" of the other person, or the "need to be needed" as I like to put it) many thanks in advance Ps Counsellors don't seem to understand about this, and not be much help in my experience!
Comment from : @TRL2303

I felt this way almost all my life
Comment from : @CanadianBear47

I'm still depressedtherapy 4 yearsI still barely wanna get up
Comment from : @TR-ru7tb

I find it’s kind of a vicious cycle: my depression is a symptom being in, and now recovering from, narcissistic relationships… and my depression and low self-esteem led me into those relationships to begin with!
Comment from : @getstakerized

Thank you, doctor
Comment from : @matikramer9648

It’s the narcissist that causes all of the depression! I’ve been married to a narcissist for 32 years! They will find every possible way to drain your soul! The minute he goes to work and I don’t have to see him for nine hours I am happy until I realize it’s an hour before he comes home and the depression starts!!
Comment from : @tmi6495

I’m always happier when I have no contact with the narcissist in my life but trying to permanently escape is impossible for me Thank you for clarifying the difference for me
Comment from : @lovebobbieboutiquesoap8713

This is so true, I felt so light and relieved and life was so colorful againbrThe heavy depressed feelings were gone! 🥳
Comment from : @seaimagineering

My narc mom has a sixth sense with my intentions of breaking the trauma bond with her It's like if she had mental Siri or Alexa to read my mind! 😱brbrF ex when I planned moving without telling her and went to see places, she started sending me messages "are you moving?" 😱 brbrOr if I realize something important of the trauma bond and how to break away, she somehow senses that and calls me! 😱 Although she never calls or has called when she has known I've needed her the most in my youth
Comment from : @LoveBeliefTruth

Mine sure was, but not because of the abuser, but because of society and cultural ideas making me compelled to ignore and worst, rationalize and justify the abuse! "Be kind and you will receive kindness!" or "people with mental illnesses can't be held accountable for their actions so just love them as much as you can!!" or "just bbe yourself!!!!"/b Wellhow can you "be yourself" when the narcissist makes you feel more worthless and disposable than a piece of 65 million year old, rotting, maggot infested dinosaur shit bfor being yourself in the first place?/b Especially if said abuser is your own"mother"? If it weren't for all of that polluted waste of toxic positivity that media bLOVES/b to dish out I wouldn't have ever found ways to "forgive and forget" only to wind up hurt again with each time being more painful than the last
Comment from : @wendi-bnkywuv

I am into severe #depression for the last one year I convince myself daily that I have to live, but I fail everytime brbrIs this the end? No idea
Comment from : @Final_Turn

What about when he is kind to me Because that too affects my mood I am more relaxed, and I feel worthy even though it's always short-livedbrbrI don't socialize much at all anymore By choice , because of how I feel toward and about him brbrHe still wants me to do something with his relatives , and I always make an excuse
Comment from : @bronwynsimons7028

Thank you for your help and support dr Ramani It is Invaluable
Comment from : @izawaniek2568

Narcissists do cause depression they're like a dark cloud I don't think they like to see people happy
Comment from : @J44865

I thought clinical depression was a way of life from birth to grave :D All health care professionals do is give people pills that don't work I've taken three or four brands of prescription anti-depressants/anti-anxiety and yet here I am watching this video because the pharmaceuticals don't fix anything
Comment from : @emmalouie1663

This is excellent and offers so much clarity Dr Ramani Thank you again🙏
Comment from : @ann-mariequigley2944

Your videos and not helpful! They are very triggering!
Comment from : @JulieJulie7

That's how it is for me The weird thing is, my ncmom doesn't even have to be dishing out typical narc abuse She's been love bombing and on good behavior for a while now, but still, I've noticed time and time again, whenever I'm stuck at home with her, I eventually become very lethargic and depressed When I'm at work, I feel a lot better But anytime I've had time off of work like vacation, I always get super depressed when I have to be back home around her Just being in the same house as her somehow makes me depressed
Comment from : @pault9544

I HAD noticed that when the narcs are away THIS mouse 🐀 WILL want to PLAY!!! So good to hear it said from a professional!! 😄
Comment from : @Survivin2Thrivin

One is circumstantial/trauma related and the other one possible chemical imbalance Both are difficult to beat
Comment from : @raquelsostre4765

Yes, it is a symptom of abuse and the anxiety also
Comment from : @BlueMosaic5

If you're codependent, will your narc-related depression be worse? I think this would be a good topic for a show
Comment from : @kathybrown6678

What if this has been going on for years now and NOBODY CARES EVEN WHEN U REACH OUT TO PEOPLE AND COUNSELORS NEVER DO ANYTHING OR EVEN SHOW UP TO WORK FEELS AS IF THE ENTIRE WORLD HAS Targeted U FOR DEATH
Comment from : @stefg7611

But you know you’re going back after the fun lunch w friends, and not ready to dump them yet, so the anxiety and depression cloud doesn’t totally go away
Comment from : @annstar2793

Very interesting !!! Thank you !!!!
Comment from : @annstar2793

Doesn’t getting “therapy “ mess with your health insurance future?? I have heard that you can qualify for less care or be black listed if you admit you have this type of issue Is this correct?
Comment from : @jenniferreneegarnes-colema9936

How can I contact you,from india
Comment from : @tabassumara2973

Sometimes I’m surprised to hear that depression is “really serious,” because I’ve been depressed all my life It’s my baseline I wasn’t really taken seriously about this; it’s just the way I’ve always been brI’ve also been in narcissistic “care” lifelong brbrAt 30, I was diagnosedbrbrI was married and my spouse did not flinch or respond to a (very gently, tentatively put) statement that I had a suicide plan (and date), he did not flinch He did not respond brbrA third party is why I’m still here (Most people who are rejected or ignored when they mention a suicide plan, DON’T ASK TWICE) brbrThe N responded to the third party, but STILL tried to prevent mental health care routinely AFTER I was hospitalized, inpatient brbr(How is this not seen as abusive, legally?)brbrHe tried to tell me that I “would never do that to him; [wait for it] it was ALMOSTbras badbras divorce”brbrMy death would have been an insult to him ALMOST as much as divorcing him would, but not quite brbr(How is THAT not seen as abuse—or at least WRONG?/Worthy of mention?!?!)brbr“Why wasn’t I better yet, if treatment is working?”brbrUm, that guy over there… whom I was bound to (and he reenforced that regularly) didn’t offer a healing environment It’s like healing from a wound in a thornbush brbr“BuT hE iz So sUpPorTivE uv YoU”brbrOnly to impress you, other partybrbrH “gasp!!! You besmirch my character!!!!!” brbrH is consoled, for he is a Self-Righteous Narc, and I am a Major Burden (Although killing myself would be bad Please unravel that logic for me)brbrI guess I’m “c,” “all of the above”brbr(“Comorbidity” is an understatement)brbrI don’t really know what I’m trying to convey here, maybe just describe my experience
Comment from : @MK-mt4kn

What about constantly watching your videos after I left last year and afraid to fill out divorce papers?
Comment from : @reneebaginski9647

One point about covert narcs is they are also typically depressed themselves So not only do you have the typical issues, but you have their depression, and the fact that everyone thinks they are so nice and sweet, setting you up to constantly gaslight yourself I mean, if you can be around that and not get depressed you are super-human
Comment from : @Cowface

Your voice is not loud and clear I really can't concentrate Pls check 🤔😌
Comment from : @marygeorge275

That’s very interesting But what if I feel bad and depressed because I lost a narcissist? Not like depressed but like bipolar my mood swings changes 24 times a day ! For the past 5months…I know very well that was toxic but I’m feeling sad and hearth broken without it …I just can’t let go and I’m feeling so down I have some laughs with my friends but as soon as they’re gone I’m back to my sad place
Comment from : @_Matilde96

❤️🙏
Comment from : @SG-ce7ji

As a former Marine who has a clinical diagnosis of Major Depressive Disorder, I’m just now learning that while some of this is indeed related to my military service, a lot of it was related to a toxic mother Thank you
Comment from : @HelloNotMe9999

Wooord
Comment from : @crongusclips7836

I've been out of the relationship for 10 years But I only started learning about narcissism for about a year brIm gaining in healing brBut its a major thing that I'm still struggling
Comment from : @shanehendricksom8404

🙏❤️
Comment from : @fredavalbjorkstormnielsen7389

I sincerely think so, time and distance has me in considerably better headspace and heart space!
Comment from : @elilevine2410

How interesting, you just explained my childhood For all you survivers out there, you are worthy of respect and real functional love Don't sell yourself short because of your parents' mental illness May you find peace, healthy mutual love, respect and abundant life 🙏❤
Comment from : @GypsyLil

Growing up w/ narcissistic parents and toxic family is a factor / or more like the root of my depression I got diagnosed with depression at the age of 12 Now, still battling with both clinical depression and narc abuse for 25 years So it is simultaneous in my situation ☹️
Comment from : @user-sb7iy5nw9b

Don't you notice that this "depression" is like cult induced depression brThe tactics used in cults, are the same tactics used with narcissist It's like they are trying to get you depersonalized to mold you into what they want you to be brbrThey use all the same tactics Love bombing, fear, isolation, deception dependency, humiliation, etcto create a depersonalization of that person brbrIt's definitely like strategic military in nature A military tactic like in training is to break the person's self down, to create a fighting machinebrbrIt's actually what they are doing Intentionally or not is a different story, but to hold onto yourself through that is a massive task brbrIf you like yourself, you won't when they get done You won't even know who you are So apathy to depression is what you're left with brbrYou have to find yourself again, and it's amazing that it doesn't take long for them to undo who you are But it definitely takes time and effort to just begin to look for yourself And it takes a very long time to get back to yourself after narcissistic abuse brbrIf you see this happening to other people it just breaks your heart I think it's why people are so into the narc discussion brbrTo break a person's mind, soul and spirit is like a death that they have to grieve Basically it's the death of you in a way But if you can see what it is you can come up fightingbrbrPeople can actually know that they aren't alone in this And just maybe we can find a way to stop people from being able to do it brbrPsychological abuse and terrorism/ that's what it is, shouldn't be accepted or allowed, and yet many are unwittingly enabling it And some have actually have learned these tactics and are using them against people for their own goals
Comment from : @nikkinorton8310

Walking on egg shells all the time Avoiding conversations, jokes Overthinking about every word I was about to say Every time I broke up I was better The last time I thought she has changed, but one last tantrum came and fortunately I already knew what it was Just another cycle My biggest clue was that the medication for depression did not work whilst I was exposed Thanks to this channel I was able to understand what was going on and that there was nothing I could do anymore brTks Doc!
Comment from : @rogerpatitucci6741

I’ve been thinking that my depression was caused by my relationship with my mother This gives me hope that I can help myself heal It’s possible my depression could improve over time It seems to be working I get sad and cry, not because I’m depressed, but because I’m grieving Seeing things as they really are is tough And realizing that I wasn’t responsible for any of the bad treatment that I received I’m watching videos to learn how I can change my responses when she attacks me or just makes ridiculous and annoying statements It’s a process My mom and brother keep sucking me back into the sticky mess
Comment from : @bethmendoza1847

Totally relate with narcissistic relationship Yep
Comment from : @janinesmith369

Is there a wee chance you could make your volume louder on your videos? Other videos I have to turn down, yours, I can't seem to get loud enough to combat background noise? If not, that's okay! Your videos are worth watching no matter the effort! Thank you!
Comment from : @LoveIsAlwaysHereChooseLove

Please keep posting this information as a reminderbecause we need it desperately, especially in the vortex of narcissistic trap!
Comment from : @mariesantos6041

I was born with anxiety but not depression, the depression is obviously harder to deal with, and I've had it since a young teenager
Comment from : @BNL07604

This confirms what I always knew about my symptoms of depression As a matter of fact, I refuse to continue taking the prescribed SSRI’s because I noticed that while I get along with the narcissists in my life better while medicated, I do fully experience joy without medication — just so long as I am not being “Narc-O-Tized” I made up that word Also, the SSRI’s made it impossible to cry, or experience an orgasm
Comment from : @Snivebyram

This is very eye opening for me I’ve currently been away from my emotional abuser for over two weeks and I’ve noticed a major change for the better in my mood I’ve been coerced into getting put on antidepressants by this person several times I never stuck with taking them because when we were at the high points on the roller coaster I felt normal again This makes so much more sense now Remove the stressors… remove the depression!
Comment from : @nicksivds

My husband used to smile at me now all he does is call me names tells me how awful I am When I come home from work I go to bed just to get away from him
Comment from : @alesiabradley5399

Ok, so again, wtf is wrong with me My world feels grey all the time When I'm with my Narsissist, it almost feels like someone turnt on a switch Suddenly everything is colourful and warm and bright I guess thats not how it should be 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😕
Comment from : @cologne_jungle

I have been living with depression for at least the last decade Probably my whole life of 33 years I have gone to a few different doctors about this and a couple of therapists but nothing has helped I will keep searching until I find a solution but it’s a terrible way too live Oh well, I guess at least I know what it is But I don’t know if it’s clinical depression or narcissistic depression Probably both
Comment from : @annaburns2865

Two minutes in and it's just too much
Comment from : @shinrin-yoku3877

I went to the mental hospital for a few days after feeling depressed, suicidal, and struggling to find pleasure in things for about a year Those 3 days felt like a vacation Going home I things things would finally be good and we could just move forward I begged it of him My stint in the hospital was only yet another trigger for him Nothing changed He stormed out the house about a month later on our 6 year anniversary screaming that he was leaving me Honestly there is an enormous sense of relief despite the situation I can be social, I can plan life I saw through the trauma bond and was like NOPE Not happening this time It feels really REALLY good to stand up for myself Even when I have doubts or a lack of confidence, doing the right thing for me is always going to pay off for my future self and that’s what I’m focused on
Comment from : @amandapark7786

Sad reality 😢 😞 😔 😪 💔
Comment from : @myiramddhif7641

It is notable, as Dr Ramani said, that long-term narcissistic abuse can lead to clinical depression, due to the emotional drain, self-esteem breakdown, and manipulative confusion caused by the abuser
Comment from : @samanthabarron8481

Yeah that will tend to make you emotionally ill which leads to mentally I’ll
Comment from : @mattlehnardt8035

I went on a 4 day trip to my sister's house, and had everything turn around Distance matters
Comment from : @notsoreverendbecca2308

Gee…2 weeks sounds like a cakewalk How about 3years
Comment from : @firefeethok_tui2355

I'm always sad when my covert narcissist goes silent and I feel better when she returns I hate myself for this I wish I was strong enough to leave
Comment from : @petediamond7263

I'm going through a lot of these symptoms and it's 7 months out I left him last Aug 2021
Comment from : @JessiesFamily

YES Answered before I listened to the video
Comment from : @braveheart977

Me agradan sus vídeos pero no puedo agregar subtítulos en español Comprendo el idioma inglés pero a veces se me dificulta y pierdo detalles debido a eso
Comment from : @mariadelasnievesroblesgorriti

I think 1 in 5 are clinically depressed world-wide
Comment from : @khalidalzayani7072

I remember trying so many different antidepressants to tolerate my narcissist and his daughter They sucked Marijuana actually saved me I would smoke weed and just laugh at them Drove them nuts Most of the time I would “craft-out” and they hated that they had nothing to do with my hyper focus They definitely put down my art 🥴 ok, they made nothing
Comment from : @SinMore

You are a life saver for me I did not understand what i am facing till Ibrheard you
Comment from : @keenkhan6205

Will you please have subtitles cause I have a deaf friend and she wishes to understand your videos :/
Comment from : @Yoshyumi23

What if someone can't get to therapy especially a single mother living with the narcissistic parent?
Comment from : @misseducation7056

thumbs up all the way! i suffer depression but here's the kicker, my narc mum plays the victim by telling everyone she takes antidepressants
Comment from : @jackrippper3389

Catholic Church is behind most of the stalking I’ve been through My narcissist mother and aunts
Comment from : @maisumsobreviventedeabuson5277

I'm usually a happy fun loving person and the fact I realized how gray, sad, and stressed my world had become almost without realizing it was happening When I realized my "New normal" was this depressed and hopelessness it was one of the big catalyst for me getting out the relationship Realizing how this covert narc had literally STOLEN my joy made me mad enough for myself to wake up and start the work on myself and my escape plan brbrPeople who haven't been in these relationships before truly don't understand how you wound up in it or why it's so hard to get out They just don't get how slow and methodical narc abuse happens And, yes, someone would have to almost be a robot not to be affected with depression when put through this soul stealing situation But, for me, I used the angry realization someone was stealing my joy as rocket fuel to stand up for myself, wake up and start getting the heck out of dodge
Comment from : @marylind1144

No i was beeing trapped by narsisistic Psychopath criminals for 20 and more years Criminally
Comment from : @NimmyGierlinger_88

This is exactly how it works for me I'm slowly beginning to understand the big picture So many years and so much unnecessary pain 😢 Thanks for all the help that I get from your videos Dr Ramani! ❤️
Comment from : @Mr_Matrix

This kind of garbage sent me to the psych ward twice
Comment from : @Damaddok82

❤️❤️❤️
Comment from : @rosalindlight

What if the Marc is one's spouse?
Comment from : @andreyasdus7629

Doctor Ramin can you give some feedback on the approaches to narcissism and narcissistic abuse from marriage helper and doctor David Hawkins marriage recovery or marriage restoration
Comment from : @summerrichards5407

I can attest to this The sadness I've felt throughout my life has lessened since I've learned the true cause and how to heal I can't change the past but Now is better thanks to Dr Ramani 💝
Comment from : @rcomyns4664