| Название | : | NARCISSISTIC FAMILY IS NOT "EVERYTHING"| A New Way To Think | Psychotherapy Crash Course |
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My family was the original Push Me-Pull You Come close-go away I finally realized my place in this family a year ago and knew for my own mental health I needed to step out It was so painful for months, but it's become reality, and the stress of always trying to fit in is released Comment from : Sarah DY |
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You do not need approval or validation to exit the toxic family dynamic Yes, it can hurt, but river time is liberating and peaceful I've experienced jealousy, envy, and, judgments, and even hatred from family members; both parents, siblings, and my children I love them, but from a distance, this creates a healthy life dynamic for me, and that's what's most important They can no longer hurt me, I've taken my power back! Thank you, Dr Hill, for your counsel, so many people need your guidance Comment from : Transformation with Max |
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I think friendships are way more meaningful than family With friendships you CHOOSE to be around that person because you genuinely get eachother Family is based on obligations You don't get to choose the family you were born into you are just forced to be around them because you happen to be related Comment from : L A |
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It’s been devastating to realize that my family isn’t who they proclaim to be Being told that family need to be there for each other, but what they really meant is that you need to be there for them, end of story Comment from : Justice |
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Absolutely aggree !!!!! Comment from : speeddoctor |
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Thank you, thank you, thank you for your wisdom! You help so many people, and I greatly appreciate all of your thoughtful videos Comment from : KT B🌸 |
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My family is still in the process of destroying me Now I’m depending on doctors to save me It doesn’t look good Comment from : HuricaneChampagne |
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Respect trumps Family, Comment from : Zach Jones |
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Thank you 🌹 Comment from : Lula Gardner |
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I wanted to believe came from an unhealthy disfunctional nuclear unit Time came to choose myself Comment from : Catie Love |
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I could listen to this all day Thank you Ms Hill xoxox Comment from : Valerie Walker White |
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I like and agree with this video, family shouldn’t abuse you Comment from : Lisa Anderson |
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Thanks so much for this video! I have been struggling with distancing myself from my dysfunctional family for quite some time Every time I try to take space from them, they call, text, and leave sad manipulative messages on my phone and don't seem to "understand" my need for distance no matter how I communicate that need to them I'm wondering if cutting them off is my only option at this point since I can't seem to get through to them At least watching this video has helped me feel less alone and validated Thank-you! Comment from : Jesse Graham |
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This video and others that you have posted have really helped me while I've been going through a rough time with my own situation Thank you so much for posting these videos They really help Comment from : Cosmic Repose |
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A few years ago I was accused of “hating my family” by an extended family member because I cut a narcissistic sibling from my life I cut out that flying monkey as well Comment from : Lisa A |
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Thank you for all your videos! I'm newer to your channel and watch when I can You are a blessing! The information you provide is so helpful and you share it with such grace Thank you Comment from : Lenny |
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Yes thank you 😊 🙏 Comment from : late night talk with babymoma |
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Love the content Thank you for your time n efforts Comment from : a S |
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Thank you for talking about this In Asia, parental narcissism is so rampant & considered ok I think it’s much worse than in America because no one talks about it in Asia Comment from : Sarah |
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Truth Comment from : PhoenixArisen |
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The toxicity started with my family, it caused me to have abusers in my life, it was familiar Comment from : Jennifer Haynes |
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"Family is everything" - I think it is the same all over the world, not only United States Comment from : Lena Electric |
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Thank you, Tamara, for sharing as generously as you do My family and I have greatly benefited from your timely presentations Comment from : PepperJones |
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There was so much negativity in my family I have alot less stress now that I let that part of my life go Comment from : eugenia white |
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The benefit of coming from an abusive/dysfunctional family is that your family is humanity, nature, animals, Creator in a deeper way than most people who cling solely to the cult of family We got to see the human condition up close… and still love them, even if we need strong boundaries or to even walk away, 💜 A couple quotes I like “To understand all is to forgive all” and “Father, forgive them for the know not what they do” They really dont This doesn’t mean put up with abuse! Don’t!!!! It doesn’t serve/benefit anyone!!!! Just live your life as loving as you can… and keep learning the ways of love all our lives! There is great beauty AND connection in the “orphan” archetype!!! Comment from : June Elle |
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This is all very true 🙏🏽 with fam friends and people we previewed thought who loved us like we love them It comes from society at large Still trying to comprehend in grad school for psychology I believe you can cherish love but they aren’t everything Some grandparents and future prospective in laws can be jealous as well sadly Thank you for discussing trauma / stress Personality disorders/ mental disorders in people /dysfunction/bitter Yes , ignore distance , distance emotionally Comment from : Valencia Walker |
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your amazing ,thank you so much for this ! Comment from : Josette |
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I am not sure how this video popped up on my feed I was contemplating if I was going to click on it or not but I am glad that I did I think that you are amazing the way that you eloquently explained how the unrealistic expectations of family and the pressures of society to cater to the myth has produced toxic individual and family relationships For years I have seen and heard counselors urge people to "hang in there" with toxic family members This is very dangerous because in some cases people get physically assaulted or even killed because they wanted to be loyal to a family member that was dangerous My x-father in law was a retired sergeant in the Orlando Police Department and he told me that the most dangerous call is domestic violence He told me that family is dangerous and he don't trust them because of what he has seen in his job as a police officer I was wondering why he was always looking at everybody sideways at cookouts lol Thank you for your wisdom and insight Comment from : richard masters |
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Thank you for this one,it came at the right time and is very much appreciated Comment from : Jade Gabriel |
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Hello Tamara! I'm Yasmine, originally from Haiti Your channel is like water in dry land After publishing my memoir, The Cost of the American Dream; Diary of a Homeless Soul in January 2020, during the pandemic, I evolved from victim to speaker and a mental health advocate I shifted my focus on helping fellow immigrant individuals who've experienced generational trauma, family scapegoating, family separation, and deportation prioritize their mental health to foster generational healing and connect with resources Your channel is now one of them I thank God for you I'm now working on a workbook with my therapist Comment from : Yasmines Cooking Show |
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You're so right Thank you so much for talking about the downside reality of such a long held, often erroneous belief about families People need to hear this It made me feel better! Comment from : Patsy Palmadessa |
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Thank you for another great video! Can you talk about the societal affects of being a scapegoat that has left the toxic family of origin? My part of taking responsibility is knowing that I allowed toxic behavior Part of my recovery is leaving toxic people/situations It seems society rarely believes that a scapegoat that has left didn't do 'something' to deserve the treatment The false societal message of "You're the problem if you're not talking to your family" quote in your video hit home Comment from : Belong Brasil |
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I walked away years ago I mourned family members who are still alive My dad died a week ago, I have yet to cry because I already cried for years He couldn't find it in his heart to validate my childhood abuse He was a good man but took his anger out on his children when he was younger My siblings, 7 of us, all see it differently, except 1 The others excuse it like people who make excuses for Joe Jackson beating on MJ, or tell me it was long ago, "get over it" Comment from : Lets talk about insurance |
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Nailed it! Comment from : Heidi Greenwood |
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Támara I'm so thankful that I found your channel I've shared your videos with other friends who are trying to get into therapy Thank you for your work Comment from : Junior |
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"Our society has exaggerated the role of family so much"Wow, that literally stopped me in my tracks I'd never heard it put like that before, yet it was like a light bulb went on And here I always thought it was me, like you said: something must be wrong with US if we're estranged from fam Also even some of our cultures in the US focus on fam way more than others too Love when I hear something on here from a professional letting me know I wasn't nuts all along, lol Comment from : Rad-Angel |
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It is very healthy to walk away from family members who are:brbr*Rageful Borderlines/Narcissistsbr*Active Heroin/ Meth/ Pill Addicts br*Unlawful Militias Membersbr*Child Molesters/ Deviantsbr*QAnon Conspiracy TheoristsbrbrNever EVER go to a therapist who is a Fundamentalist Bible Cult Member They will say there is never a time to go "No Contact", even with sick Dangerous Toxic family members WRONG!brIf you're being repeatedly violated, LEAVE!brbrI wasted $20k on six therapists over ten years I unknowingly payed couples and individual counselors who had not a clue about brThe Neuroscience of Trauma brNow, this is one of my area of Graduate Level Behavioral Research sice 2019brbrWhat those "Christian therapists" should have said was: brbr"Sir, your spouse has a permanent personality disorder No medication, support group or therapy is going to erase that Keep your money Get away from that Domination Driven Fundamentalist Bible Cult Member You will never find peace with that Covert Narcissist" brbrThat bit of information would have been a refreshing truth that saved me ten years of aggravation, money & time I know better nowbrbrBoy, am I happy and peaceful nowbrThank goodness for the Research of:brbrDr Bessal van der Look, PhDbrDr Alice Miller, PhDbrDr Susan Forward, PhDbrDr Karol Darsa, PsyDbrDr Kim Sage, PhDbrPete WalkerbrTamara Hill, Trauma ExpertbrLilly Hope Lucario, CPTSS Expertbrand ten other Authorities in the Field of Trauma Their decades of Experience and Research has made a remarkable difference in my high standard of Life Todaybrbr - Man w a Sauna Comment from : Tiabla Sangoriti |
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I have two young boys We left an abuser and toxic family in 2019 We started a new life but there is this palpable void I feel good about keeping my boys safe, but I feel guilty for not being able to provide them with the healthy family that they deserve Our holidays and special occasions feel very different they only have Mom now Comment from : C P |
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Bravo! ♥️♥️♥️👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾♥️♥️♥️ Comment from : Bohemian Joy |
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Thank you for relieving my overwhelming guilt over going no contact with my parents who were abusive to me but not my sister Comment from : jenali1978 |
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Thank you!! Comment from : RA Andrews |
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Thank You for sharing you amazing refreshing words of wisdom TamarabrI wish I was in Pennsylvania so I could continue my Trauma TherapybrMy trusted therapist of the last 13 months, has left the agency last week Oh well Comment from : Tiabla Sangoriti |
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I decided to do this it’s been a year this month and no one besides me is willing to go to therapy Walking away has been the hardest thing ever Comment from : Natalie |
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It’s just refreshing to have someone that understand the other side of the situation/ dynamic Thank you for the much needed support 🌹 Comment from : BOE16 |
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Thank you for taking away the shame of those who choose to distance themselves from toxic and dysfunctional family members Comment from : Ronald Zion |
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Needed this! Thank you Comment from : Paiger |
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Absolutely 👏🏽🙏🏽❤️ Comment from : Joshdifferent |
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