| Название | : | WALKING AWAY FROM YOUR Family | Am I ESTRANGED From My FAMILY? |Psychotherapy Crash Course |
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This channel is such a blessing - thank you for this wonderful discussion Tamara Comment from : Toxic Free TV - Narcissistic Abuse Awareness |
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I just disconnected from my mom and brother It has been 9 days now I needed peace of mind and this recent experience with them I got physically sick I have been feeding my mind with these videos Thankyou ❤ Comment from : Donna Rae Mccall |
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❤❤❤ Comment from : ExquisiteCoils |
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Growing old solo It is hard Who will take care of me when I need help? Comment from : Dee P |
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Thank you so much for helping me walk through these difficult times 😊 Comment from : ArtBot Designs |
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I have one cousin I speak with regularly It hurts but one side sees me as a black sheep of sorts from things I did as a child that they apparently have no grace for me from The other side is completely nuts My mom passed 8 years ago, and everything fell apart on her side after Especially after I got divorced three years later I believe there are sociopaths on both sides It makes me feel like I am the crazy one by believing all of them have psychological issues 😢 Comment from : Christie Dunlap |
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Haven't spoken to my family in 23yrs due to a bad divorce and parent alienation It's sad and yes, I'm broken-hearted, but it was their choice My ex hated me for divorcing him, plus he was a Lawyer Comment from : Pearl PT |
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I think my family left me when they decided to treat me with disrespect, keep me in some artificial role they created (for their own sake) decades ago So yeah, if its their way or the highway, the highway looks like the better option! Comment from : ASweden |
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I blocked the numbers to most of my family members Those who are blocked can't reach me I've told those, I talk to, not to pass me any messages Comment from : Gary Randall |
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I didn't realize my family was a cult until I cut off 95 of them Comment from : Gary Randall |
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I have walked away from my dad, his wife, and kids They have kept trying to contact me over the years Most recently my step mom messaged me saying that I was a horrible person for not talking to my dad Trying to make me feel guilty for severing the relationship My dad has even gotten his sister and brother to contact me I have to stay strong in protecting myself and I will not go back I made that mistake a few different times tp try and have a relationship They only want to keep me around so they can continue to put me down and because they are scared of what I know They walk around pretending to be good people but have been so destructive to other people They have done so many things to harm other people for their own satisfaction I do not want to be around their toxicity Comment from : Smitten Kitten |
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It’s not there because we have replaced people with devices the biology of bonding is being interfered with we learned to work out our problems not avoid them Comment from : Dawn |
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The problem is when people weaponize estrangement Comment from : Dawn |
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I just had to learn how to walk away from my narcissistic mother It's a hard pill to swallow but I have to do it for my mental health and so I can be the opposite of what she was to me, for my children Comment from : JustbeingEbony |
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i’ve been disowned disinherited and new people in said family don’t even know my existence like i was erased on paper its really hard to stand up for yourself your needs and wants when you are met with being denied demeaned and intentionally ignored by your original family unit radical acceptance is also hard but not as dangerous as staying in the family system that doesn’t respect or acknowledge you they even proudly took my last name they have much contempt for before completely erasing me Comment from : HuricaneChampagne |
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My family NEVER went beyond shallow conversation Not being in touch is actually fairly normal for us Comment from : Barb |
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Yup I had that quest of “what’s next” 19:14 Comment from : Joshdifferent |
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Yup ppl will drop you because their family may be abusive as well so they feel like you might judge them 16:49 Comment from : Joshdifferent |
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I walked away from my entire family along with extended family simply because they will never understand why I chose to to so and quite frankly I didn't care seeing that what others think of medoes not define who I am The problem is that most people DO CARE of what others think of them which is why they stay tethered to the these toxic peoplebrIf someone has your best interest at heartthey will lift you up and support any decision you make in your personal life because it's nobody's buisnessbrLearn from toxic family how not to be instead of repeating these relationships based upon adjendasbrYou are NOT here on this planet to be responsible for others happinessyou are here to be in service to one another from a place of loveacceptancehomoringrespect and compassion for all souls that cross your path ❤ Comment from : Teresa Fraser |
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Family Estrangement underpins my connection with my relatives Years ago, I removed myself from my UNHEALTHY relatives I received professional help Fifteen years later, I returned, hoping most of them sought therapy too Sadly it’s the same messes, just different toilets I CUT TIES COMPLETELY!brbrI must say, I saw a pattern The TROUBLED relatives admitted while they were physically sick, their medical doctors suggested mental therapy to them They went to professionals who told them they needed medications and CBT, but they declined They said they were okay🤷🏽♀️😢brbrOne of my mantras:brbrMy relatives, I do not deal with; my family is who I hand-pick, PERIOD! Comment from : Ladydivalful 1200 |
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Thank you for this video I have stepped away from my family I talk with my sister only because of our mom Comment from : TALKINN MEDIA |
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I’m confused! Are people looking for happiness 100 of the time? Often times family are loving and caring too but it seems that people only focus on the negative Comment from : J Miller |
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I just was able to walk away from my family at 40 years old I have been wanting to separate from them since age 15 trying to get emancipated I always feel better and at peace when I am not in communication with my relatives Comment from : Queen Sati |
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My family doesn't even acknowledge me I'm completely alone I'm done trying only to be devastated again and again! 😢 Comment from : Laurie Morales |
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I’ve been estranged from my parents since 1987 I’m 56yo now and had an entire 34 year military career They missed that and they missed out on my wife and two children Comment from : Eric J Tagesen |
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Please let me know how I can book virtual sessions with you Do you take Tricare? Please let me know how and when you will have availability Thank you Comment from : Mila |
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I’m walking away from my mother and brothers They are toxic to me It’s always my mom against her daughters but loves her sons that DONT do anything for her Except one of my brothers can burn her house down and their she is giving him birthday and Christmas cards but treats me crappy So walking away Comment from : Yvonne Sanchez |
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I did this changed my number I love my mom but she and 4 of my siblings or so toxic I had anxiety attack had to go to a mental hospital to get evaluated I can’t do this any longer Comment from : Jazzy |
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I just found your videos and I have stayed away from my relatives and family which includes my mother and brothers because they emotionally and mentally drain me out I feel shame and guilt and wonder if God is punishing me because of my decision My family expects financial support and I refused to do it when I got married and eventually lost my job after I got sick with a terminal illness My only close brother decided that I should donate my property to him to help him support my elder sick mother knowing my health condition and the fact I also have young children I wanted to live my remaining life in peace but family always calls when they have problems I got so scared when the phone would ring That was how traumatized I am with what they are doing to me I have so much pain and anger and hate and sadness that I stop talking to them and stop responding to their text messages How can I relieve this guilt and shame that I felt from leaving my toxic family and forgiving myself from years of emotional and mental abuse and manipulation? Comment from : Mr P |
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You can have family and no love It's better to be alone and work through it with counseling I had to completely cut out all the unhealthy toxic relationships out of my life for good Comment from : Kimberly Davis |
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A call at new year’s or bdays? I just get a text, and I only return a text, although this yr I called my sister We had a nice chat, but we are back to not talking cuz it’d have to reach out and Nephews (her kids) ignore my texts, niece (who I used to feel close to) only sends a quick text Have asked many times to sis why she’s frozen me out Did I do anything wrong?! Answer was no and given No real explanation so no idea why they are so toxic to me And gaslighting when I bring up toxic behaviours Was always the cool aunt It’s been this way for about 7 yrs now Have grieved the loss Am getting to point I don’t want a crappy connection with them I mean no matter how perfect their life could look, it ain’t cuz only hurt people hurt people, whether they acknowledge it or not I am so much stronger now, and I accept I have a non conventional life Once you accept that, so many possibilities open up Stay strong loving yourself and trusting your perceptions Comment from : Roxane Marin |
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Many of these family behaviors have happened to my family I've moved forward without mention of a toxic family dynamic for self-preservation and peace I have two families; 1 blood-related, and 2 "Water", my water family is loving, caring, and nontoxic, and we flow with life together "Bloof family is not what it's cracked up to be" Live a peace-filled life with people that flow with you! Comment from : Transformation with Max |
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A friend telling me “Would you rather be part of a family that loves you unconditionally? Or loves you only when it benefits them?” was the most enlightening thing I ever heard Comment from : blank earth |
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I think we should take forgiveness right out of the equation It's not actually necessary and doesn't fit estrangement at all because three things are usually needed for forgiveness br1)The person that wronged you acknowledges what they did br2)The person that wronged you demonstrates they want to change so they wont hurt you againbr3) You forgive so you can continue the relationship brbrSo for those of us estranged potentially none of the ingredients above are present, so it's like saying you need to make a cake without the ingredients It just doesn't work Also why should our forgiveness be so cheap that we would give it for no reason and without any of the ingredients above? 'The whole reason people say to forgive is to feel better ourselves but forgiveness isnt the right vehicle and the constant pressure to 'forgive 'can further shame and negate peoples experiences I have no malice or anger towards my family because I have done loads of research and understand my family system I have radically accepted what has happened and am moving on with my life It never needed forgivenessit just needed knowledge and acceptance Comment from : Viv doolan |
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Thank you, your advice has been helpful Comment from : Burnout Relief |
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In my case they only invite us when they are having their events their birthdays Christmas, Thanksgiving etc The reason I choose to walk away was years of them complaining that I don't go to their events when I had valid reasons and I was miss understood and pressured to just be there but at the same time they never cared to be receprical towards us and my nuclear family I wasn't even asked if that day will work or if I had something going on and being respected, it felt that I was the third wheel and I just had to go along and if I didn't they were disappointed but they never tried to be receprical Also there was a lot of triangulation about me behind the scenes and other family members blaming etc When I noticed I brought it up to their awareness hoping they will change and we can work things out and understand But sadly no matter how many years I tried, it was always me and I don't know what I am talking about, I am oversensetive, crazy, it didn't happen and they just acted like I was making it up which I wasn't Their behavior and treatment was not nice to me or my kids Each time I tried it got worse so after years of the same denial and no one understanding, I choose to estranged myself which of course I got blamed again I had nothing to loose they always treat me awful could never please them even when I thought I was trying they always found something I did and I was back at the same position Now I don't want to reconnect out of fear of same situation happening again because I don't see them trying and their actions are still the same Of course they have their middle people trying to convince me to forgive and forget but it is not about forgiveness is about trust and they deny everything so how can you start healthy again when they still invalidating you and pretty much all they care for me to go back and be at their events Maybe is me but I don't trust them so I am staying away I am still struggling with trauma especially when flying monkeys come around and mention them again but I don't see the people that cause this coming on their own and have an honest communication Is taught and sad never in my life wanted this but I am at dead end, I don't know how to fix it especially when everyone is gaslighting you and invalidates you and same patterns happen and there is always a flying monkey People don't understand no one wants to estrange if things are well and there is mutual respect and reciprocity and understanding To me who ever pushes you to go back they don't care about you all they care is about their selves and just because they were treated better they think they have the right to tell you to go back Comment from : Eleni Fotopoulou |
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I have become estranged from my family Contact is to a minimum, and when we do speak it's very surface It always feels like the elephant in the room, issues that nobody ever speaks about but are clearly there I'm the "rebel" and I'm perfectly ok with that! Comment from : CoachTalia |
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Yes, yes, yes Clarity at long last Comment from : Tony Watson |
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Tamara thank you for always providing healthy tools for us to rebuild our lives and the demolition of family members Comment from : Ronald Zion |
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THATZ WHY PEOPLE DRINK MORE DOING THE HOLIDAYS STRAIGHT UP FACTS Comment from : Tasha Cook |
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Leaving and going back to a toxic family or certain toxic family members is like any other toxic and abuse relationship, every time you leave and go back it will get worse every time These people will never change Save yourself, put God first and have faith God is your source and provider and He will restore everything you think you lost Losing yourself is much worse than leaving individuals that you did not choose anyway We did not choose these people but we much choose ourselves 🙏🏾❤️☮️ Great video and discussion Comment from : Adrian Campbell |
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My wife and I are going through the process of walking away from my wife's mother and her siblings Listening to you tackle this issue and reading the comments helped and gave me a better insight on how to deal with our situation THANK YOU! Comment from : Edgar Aguilos de Dios |
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Walk away? More like "Run like hell"! Comment from : Zach Jones |
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This is my life I talk on the phone to the one brother with whom I feel safe in what I share I have quietly distanced myself from those who don't offer healthy relating It took time to let go of guilt I do send gifts to nieces, nephews who I wish to have more communication- but, it's tricky as it feels all enmeshed and tied I am reparenting myself, creating healthy bounderies and seeking Joy, new healthy connections sometimes, nature and sled-love Comment from : Makayla Hollywood |
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I want to talk with my daughter but all she goes is yell and scream She lied to me and betrayed me and I calmly called her out on it and said her behavior was unacceptable She feels like I am petty for calling her out! But she has my only grandchild Not his fault How do I handle this?! Comment from : Marian Harris |
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OMG thank you for bringing up toxic forgiveness because it’s so prevalent in our culture right now Too often people think that forgiveness means we are opening the door for them to come back in and abuse us again And one shouldn’t be pushed to forgive when one isn’t ready Maybe some of us need to wait until we move through that anger Comment from : Good Grief |
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Thank you for this! From now on I’m gonna tell anyone who asks that my entire family died in a car crash :) that way I don’t have to say “they’re toxic and after my parents died my siblings became even more toxic than they were before, so I had to disengage for my own mental health” Because I’m tired of people looking at me sideways and assuming I must be the problem, silently judging me Comment from : Good Grief |
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I am glad I found you Going through the breakup with most of my Mother’s side of the family I am 9 months in Comment from : Lucy GG |
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Me Comment from : Taajah Smith |
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This is spot on, i estranged myself But mainly because the issues are not talked about or handled Comment from : Christen jay |
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For me, I believe that family serves a purpose They are there to teach us as kids how to deal with or folks in the real world Some we cling to, some we are guarded in our interactions, there are those we try to compromise with, and there are others that we have to walk away from Some we observe boundaries and teach how we want to be treated, but we all have those that we run away from Even if it means moving far away like another country Comment from : Joanna Robinson |
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Thank you for your video🎯 it's been a year since I walked away from my family Dynamic🎭🤡🤥 of malignant narcissists, realizing they were just trying to use me as a scapegoat🐐 because they do not want to deal with their trauma, from their past, the best thing for me to do is move out the way ,for them to heal 🙏on their own with the Lord Jesus Christ, I NOT ME AWAKEN 👁 HEYOKA Empath Comment from : Donna Daniels |
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I have always felt that if texting is the only form of communication it is a way to keep distance, to avoid meaningful connection It is like Facebook: calling people friends who you have not seen in many years or who you barely know Real communication has to start in the family early It is not easy if you only know people who react negatively if you try to talk about anything of significance I tried to talk with some friends about concerns I had about what was going on in the world and was told to lighten up because we were just getting together to have fun That has been my entire life experience My dad told me early on I was too serious and needed to be like my brother: easy-going I always felt something is wrong with me Comment from : Nancy Bartley |
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Who was here since we had 1K TAM-FAM, Now we soon hitting 40k Comment from : Shakur Wonders |
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CHOSEN FAMILY REAL IS EVERYTHING AS SOMEONE IN THE LIVE CHAT SAID Comment from : Shakur Wonders |
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Calling my mom can be a pain and a cause of my nervousness I be like: What poison are u going to inject me now Comment from : Shakur Wonders |
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Thank you so much for this I am actually on the receiving end of estrangement from my son And my thought through all this has been, when he chooses to come back, "what if i am not there" I don't mean this in a manipulative fear way of 'I might die' but the I don't want to try to strive to have a healthy relationship with you, for you to just walk away again Can you understand this? Comment from : Christine Luna |
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If you come from a dysfunctional family Scapegoat Golden Child , lost child syndrome caused by the Narc parent and gave everyone a role Dont think when the Narc parent passes that everyone will be out to help each other and all have their own sense of selfsupport each other moving forward like normal siblingsbrTo the GC the loyalty to the Narc parent is ingrainedthat always dislike the chosen Scape goatbrI have learned a dear dear lesson thinking my GC brother and highly NPD personality would change and be glad to re kindle a loving the relationship to move forward with his younger brotherbrHe tried to break my backbut let on to ask me for a simple hugi trusted himhe has now left me with lumbar damaged nerves/nerve pain and damagebrI have dis owned him now completely should of followed my gut instinct and stayed away as i hadnt seen him in 2 years prior The kicker was he knew i suffered years with a spinal fracture and spent 10 years to get back on my feet/ expensive rehab and career change was doing great career /health and well being He has now put me back 10 years of spinal rehab absolute sociopath brLook out for yourself very dangerous lepoards dont change their spotsFACT Comment from : M P |
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I left my covert narcissist and adult children flying monkeys It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done I have 2 rare diseases and was dying around them It was best for my health I’m sending love and light for ALL of us! ❤️❤️❤️ Comment from : Teresa K |
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Five years ago, one of my sons estranged himself from our family because he announced he is atheist, and we are bigots because we voted for Trump and Bible believers The odd thing is I didn’t even vote for him The rest of my kids and their families think he is being weird After a while you are able to emotionally disassociate yourself from them and move on Of course we pray continually for him But life goes on The only time I cry is when I see photos of him as a child He is not someone I would be friends with as he is a bitter person He refuses to respond all texts on his birthday etc so I have stoped texting Comment from : Flower power |
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sometimes ppl just drift apart the world is ever expanding Comment from : Ms |
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Make sure before you walk away from family that you know for sure they are Toxic/disfunctional/narcissist, not willing to change You don't want to be a sitting duck to be mistreated by a opportunists That can further your mental health downward spiral Comment from : AJ |
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I appreciate this validating video I love my family but am estranged, sadly, from all of them My entire family has been broken and we have all been scattered, emotionally speaking , for years, was the pursuer of my family members I use to always send cards for everyone on every occasion, and always call and visit(I’ve lived in another state for 30 years) After a very long time, I noticed it was always a one-way-street This crushed my spirit so I just stopped communicating in any way I realized they just weren’t interested in a true relationship with me I let go of pursuing them I retain love in my heart for them but knew I deserved better treatment brThanks for all you do Comment from : Melissa Culpepper |
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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Comment from : MariaKatre |
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I'm okay with walking away from family enstrandgement and my boundaries is precious as diamonds Comment from : Markesa Stewart |
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I hate phone calls I actually am estranged from most people because I don't tell many how I actually feel or what I need or want My family I can't really talk to them about anything because I am very passionate about activism with women's rights and racism and classism and I am atheist and queer and they are hyper religious and anti most things human rights I have never felt safe or comfortable ever showing them my true real thoughts and who I truly am Comment from : Celeste Anise |
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Thank you so much for sharing, especially those reminders 🌌💖💫 Comment from : BB DN |
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There can be a lot of resentment from other family members or siblings when they feel your absence has left them burdened with all the family responsibilities Especially when they don’t understand why you had to leave That part is challenging too Comment from : LadyPoet27 |
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your videos very very helpful, because you have the courage and integrity to tell the truth Thank you, Thank God 😘😘😘😘🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐💐 Comment from : Mark Twain |
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Thank you for addressing this important topic with us brIt does come up in life with growing, seeing differences out there, self actualization, etc, that it’s best to be estranged Comment from : chilloften |
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Your channel is dope brLoving the content brKeep going Comment from : The Django JoE Show Official |
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♨️✌🏾👍🏾 Comment from : Marlon Mitchell |
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Fisheye lens setting or "360 View" or wide view, etc?brGood luck with your camera Comment from : Ross Myob |
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Letting go of a family that has no love was a mentally healthy move for me It is time for me to surround myself with mentally healthy people I get to choose who my family is Comment from : real healing |
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I have family members that I have to stay away from for my mental health and peace of mind Comment from : Verna Bryant |
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One Love Family The Frankie Paradise Network NYC Comment from : John Hill |
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