HOW FAMILY Estrangement AFFECTS YOUR LIFE |Psychotherapy Crash Course

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Family estrangement (or distancing yourself from your family) can take a lot of courage Leaving your family isn't an easy decision to make Learn more about this topic here: youtube/3htF-cZJxWU
Comment from : Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC

Thank so much for this information
Comment from : Liz colomer

Very helpful While most people think it’s bad to dump family, you encourage get out of bad relationships Understand what’s healthy thx
Comment from : Sandi533

I feel conflicted because my dad did this to everyone who didn't agree with what he believed So as a child, we had relationships severed and I was taught if someone makes me feel mad or irritated that I should cut them out It actually was a weapon for thinking the one cutting people out is in the "right" #1, telling people in your life if they don't perform as u wish, they are threatened to be removed at will #2 not every perception is reality There is no information here on identifying avoidance behavior response or discomfort of being vulnerable by communicating on both sides whether in therapy or personal to resolve individual needs working together #3 cutting off just leaves complete unresolved issues which trickles into other future relationships #4 grandiose delusion of self you are the only one who's problems are important I don't see how running away has ever been the answer UNLESS it's actual abuse Not the drama language used Today such as abused, assaulted, oppressed The definitions have been Skewed and misused to express trendy narratives Separation, loneliness Abandonment How is this helpful longterm generation after generation as healthy family therapy? I'm halfway through the video and im Hoping some positive suggestions via therapy show up rather than teaching people to run from their problems My dad died not speaking to his twin brother My husband cut off his mother AND father at Separate times only to allow them back in if they behaved the way HIS narcissist brain thought they should (which they did walking on eggshells) Now third generation LEARNED behavior of estrangement is happening It does not seem like therapists have the right advice except to encourage people to be MORE self centered, "my needs, my wants, me me me me" (2 year old) mentality rather than learning conflict resolution, joint therapy, communication skills, and AT LAST ABSOLUTE LAST resortseparation it's so unbelievably SAD how these therapists today just talk about it without an emotional attachment which discusses loss on both sides Heartbreaking!!! We are a doomed society
Comment from : Lisa Cnd

About 20 years ago now, I decided to take a break from communicating with my family I didn't announce it or anything Just stopped communicatingbrbrAbout two weeks later, my sister called, acting as Flying Monkey Asking me what was wrong She said everyone was getting along She spoke almost as if nothing had ever happened, not even the recent blow-up between the two other family members, which prompted my temporary breakbrbrI just politely said that no I didn't have a problem with anyone in the family I was vague and reassuring Because talking any other way in my family would be considered the height of rudeness Apart from all the times when they are all not very polite brbrAt the time, I had no idea what Flying Monkeys were (apart from the ones in Wizard of Oz) And I had no idea what gaslighting was Well, I didn't know the terms brbrI decided shortly after that to make the break permanent Or at least indefinite Apart from attending the one funeral, about 9 years ago, I have not talked to any of them since that day brbrAt times I have felt a twinge of guilt about leaving behind the more 'reasonable' family members This normally got washed away, when I imagined talking to any of them, and what the conversation would be like brbrThese days, having reflected, and worked on myself, done some research, tried a few different forms of therapy (and self-medicating), I feel more like I did what I had to do, and that if I had stuck around, they would have all sent me as Crazy as they were
Comment from : Roach Damascus

Such a wonderful video - thank you so much ❤
Comment from : Catherine Edge

I grewup w estrangement I was estranged from my dad at 3( mu mother used me as a pawn to get bk at my dad/ his family) I found my dad at 17 after being kicked out at 16 by my mother( she married 3x w 4 kids by three guys) She did not speak to or check on Mr for two yrs while laying beside her 3rd husband in a warm house while I was homeless I am in my 50s but I suffer OCD , Anxiety/ panic/ fibro/ high bp etc It really affects every aspect of your life
Comment from : SP Dubious Source

thank you for talking about this
Comment from : SUN GODDESS MOONCHILD

Would love therapy session How can I connect with you?
Comment from : Y R

Thank you You just described my mom, aunt, and grandmother
Comment from : Malinda Markley

100 and we are all likely experiencing our own aspects of many of the situations you are discussing
Comment from : K P

Whew, you explained exactly what's happening to me right now Had to limit contact with my non-empathetic mother and it's been hard She oversteps my boundaries and acts all nice to me because she wants something and surprise surprise hurts me again It's tough because I thought she was the "good" and "normal" parent (I'm estranged from my father as well) when in reality she never celebrated any of my successes, always quick to change the topic, and made me feel less than But I need to do this because I'm worth it
Comment from : mjspyt777

I heard someone said I am not responsible for my parents that choose to raise me” There’s something wrong with this generation, never in history a generation has been soo lucky, no wars, not hungry, wealth, good education available and jet they all feel that they were abused as a child brWhen I was little many times we had not food on our plate, and I never felt abused or a victim
Comment from : biski

When you say ignore texts, emails and such, do you mean block them? As in literally block them on your communication devices or just ignore as in do not respond? Thank you
Comment from : Giao

i would love to sit and talk to you
Comment from : CDCahill

Nice to know I'm not alone and not the only one It's so hard to be estranged There's a lot of stigma around it also Also there is the "survivor guilt" A lot of survivors blame themselves and feel responsible Sometimes you feel obligated to rescue family So many internal pressures with a narc family and from society and with our human need to bond/attach
Comment from : Jeanette Pettiford